52 New Days

Homemade with Love~xoxo

2012-02-27T06:12:00.007-08:00

As a certified cupcake fanatic, it would totally be incomplete if I did not make some of my own. As much as it is a lot of fun venturing out and trying cupcakes from different places, I thought I should not insult a baker (deep down) inside me. Thus these homemade cupcakes were born as of February 2012. Gotta record it in a history!!

Shame..shame..shame, this KitchenAid mixer was given to me a gift on my very first Christmas here in the States from my thoughtful husband. At a time, I was not working, thus had plenty free time to experiment and let my creativities flow with baking adventure. A few months later, I landed a full time job and that was when my baking adventure ended. It had been years until I whipped it out this weekend to use. No kidding!! My husband has been using this mixer more often that I do. You can probably say that it was a gift from my husband to himself.

My mother-in-law birthday is coming up in a few days and that gave me a reason to whip something up to celebrate her birthday early. I decided to make a homemade version of everything from birthday card, soup to cupcakes. Do you agree that the prices of carda are ridiculously expensive? That would make sense if it is a customized card
or one of a kind. Heck i made my own.

Dreaming of white sand...turquiose water and sunny day

2012-02-22T19:44:00.000-08:00

Tachai Island - Phuket, Thailand

Koh Tachai Island is a small uninhabited island roughly halfway between the Similans and Surin islands. At 165 kilometers north of Phuket and 65 kilometers northwest of Khao Lak most boat tours that come here are live aboard tours travelling from and to the Surin Islands and Similans. It is however possible to reach this area with a two hour speedboat from Khao Lak. Morning tends to be the most crowded time to dive here but doing a sunset dive doesn't mean all the action is gone.

The main features of diving here are its submerged pinnacles, large boulders and excellent wildlife. The top of the reef is build with excellent specimens of hard coral while deeper parts are known to have many boulders, sea mounts and sea fans. Most divers start at its southern more popular and deeper site while the northern side features a huge abandoned fish cage. As with other island in the area this region is common to spot white tip reef sharks, nurse sharks, manta rays and the king of all marine animals, the whale shark. Other more common species such as large schools of barracuda, Napoleon wrasses, yellow-backed fusiliers and banner fish can be found in huge numbers. {Source: thailand.greatestdivesites.com}

Be sure to turn your sound on when watching this video

Summer will be here early for Nelah - you may spot me in a swimming suit this year!See you soon Tachai Island!!!!!!

Bold Love

2012-02-15T06:47:00.000-08:00

On V Day, there ain't no romantic dinner under a candle light just the two of us. But we did something a whole lot better by celebrating the day of love with an entire family - now thst is quite unusal right? I think it was great and gave a completely different Valentine's vibe. When mentioning about Valentine's day, this day is often associated with love and romance between couples. Love has no boundaries, thus Valentine's day should be the day we celebrate love of all kinds..be it mother's love..father's love...pet's love and so on.

I used to hate Valentine's day when i was young and single. It was quite depressing indeed because i didnt have a special someone to share the day with plus I didnt get any flowers (that's really disappointing!). Now that I am much older and married, i couldn't care less. A card is good enough, save money for a family dinner instead of paying for some overpriced flowers that will eventually end up in a trash. Or givea me a money bouquet, frugal much?? LOL I know I am not fun nor romantic as my husband would say.

Heck i guess age has a lot to do with a decrease in overall excitements. Anyway, my ever thoughtful husband managed to send some surprises to my work, not once but twice! First it was a Calla lillies plant and next a box of strawberries covered with chocolate from the famous Sharri's berries. Yum-O...What did i get for my husband, you ask? Nothing...now that's an awesome wife i am. No worries my love, there will be many late thank you gifts in the weeks to come. Better late than never, right..right??

Now to the outfit, i celebrated the day with some animal print, bold colored cardigan, big and cozy scarf and some tall black boots. This was my V day edition of bold love.

My Valentine~**

2012-02-13T18:21:00.001-08:00

Hi, this is my Valentine. My Valentine can't wait to be a big girl.....

My Valentine loooooooooooooooves to lend a helping hand........

My Valentine is quite stylish.......

My Valentine looooooooves animals especially her Meow Meow......

....but....

Meow Meow can be quite overwhemled with love and attention - her facial expression is priceless.......

Happy Valentine Day!!!!

Sweet Tweed~*

2012-02-12T19:17:00.003-08:00

Just in time when the final winter month rolls around and the cold climate is about to end here in a few weeks (hopefully), my frozen brain finally managed to remember an almost forgotten tweed jacket which a very thoughtful Santa kindly brought over last year. The thing was hanging in the dark in a closet whispering for some love and attention - "wear me...wear me NOW!" OKie..dokie, when would be a better time to sport a tweed jacket? Summer? Hell NO - not here!! Winter - yes pleaseeee.

Boy was I glad I got this jacket? It is warm and perfect for this freezing weather. As much as I love winter clothing, I am secretly hoping for a warmer cllimate and more sunny sky. I guess weather has a lot to do with our mood (especially my mood) because I do not feel very active on a cloudy day - okay blame it on the weather some more.

My skin hates this dry weather as much as I do. I break out more than normal during this time, not to mention how severely dry my face gets. Nothing seems to work so I gave it another shot with below products from Sephora {Yu-Be Moisturizing Skin Cream / Yu-Be Lip Balm / Lancome Mousse Radiance Clarifying Cleanser}. Will come back with thorough reviews of these products in a month or so.

8 and counting*

2012-02-08T18:43:00.001-08:00

Now don’t get this post title mixed up with the 18 kids (or 20+ now?) and counting show on TV about a family with almost 2 dozens of children because this mama is very far from being capable of caring more than one child! One is quite handful.

February 8,2012 coincided with our 8 year anniversary –wooo…hoooo. We barely made it… man…tell us about it - lol. In fact my husband and I have known each other for almost 10 years now (we spent about two years learning each other before committing a suicide together on this journey). To many people’s surprise and amazement,we never celebrated..let alone having trouble remembering our anniversaries year after year and after year (if you never miss any posts on this blog,you know we have two anniversaries so that adds more confusion to the whole thing). Not remembering your anniversary is bad but it is not too bad when both partners forget…right?...right??

{How do you like our anniversary picture?}

This year though,we managed to remember a very special day of us beginning our lives together as husband and wife. Yesterday eight years ago on Sunday,2/8/12,we joined hands in marriage back. The good thing is we never feel like we have been together that long (which is a good thing in contrast to having a feeling that you have been with someone for a zillion year and have enough of it –not a good sign).

{Celebrated with something sweet and sugary as a way to add extra sweetness to our marriage}

During our eight years together,we have witnessed many of our friends broke up.. got married...got divorce....and got married again.

During our eight years together,there are countless of down times and up times.

Love,relationship and marriage are such complicated and delicate matters because it involves people’s minds and feelings. A key to a successful marriage can easily be summed up in one phrase as someone would say “give and take”with a little note though...always "give" more. Giving goes a long way.

A Bowl of Life

2012-02-08T07:35:00.000-08:00

Sure there is a life in this bowl of roasted duck noodle soup or to say it correctly there used to be a live duckie waddling around before it ended up in a form of roasted dead duck in front of my eyes and down my belly (poor thing - okay i shall stop before i feel more guilty about consuming it). Believe it or not, this very same bowl of duck noodle soup has a special story behind it or you can say Nelah can make a story out of a bowl of noodle. Either way it is a story of life changing event that i cant help but think about it every time i order a bowl at my favorite restaurant here.

Duck noodle soup has not always been my top choice of noodle. I do like it but not to the point that it makes to the very top of my list. It is something i order once in awhile when I want something different. Back in 2008, little did know this bowl of noodle was about to change my life forever. I had a very strange and strong craving for it. A feeling was so intense that i had to have it that day or else i would die. My husband even had to take a leave without pay which was totally silly for just a bowl of noodle and yes he lost $$$ of a day pay that day -duh! Lucky me - the only Thai restaurant in town which is about 45 minutes away makes this noodle for their Thai customers every Saturday. They saved my belly!!

My dad even jokingly said that i might be pregnant. A few short weeks later, i found out i was 9 weeks pregnant!! That clearly explained why i had such a strong urge to eat that day. That was a clue! Pregnancy craving is just so weird.

{Yum..yum..yum how can this be a noodle soup without noodle, right?}

Sandals for the Summer~*

2012-02-06T19:06:00.000-08:00

I know we are not done with the cold weather but trust me my pale feet are dying for some naked time. Whenever you experience the winter blues, close your eyes and imagine a vibrant and sunny summer blue sky. How about a pair of pretty sandals? I think they will cheer you up instantly too!

{Franco Sarto Shoes, Jaunt Sandals in Nude/Papaya/Teak - $79}

I am a total sandals advocate if there is such thing. As someone who grew up in a tropical country, sandals are my typical and favorite choice of shoes for such climate. When you sweat from head to toe in a 90F+ degree weather on most days, it is important to wear something breathable to avoid a stinky and stuffy situation - as I refer to it as "a stinky feet syndrome".

{Isola Shoes, Balta Sandals - $175}

I can't tell you how many pairs of sandals I have owned over the course of my life because there are way too many! As a matter of fact, I am not a pump kind of girl even though I certainly adore the look of pump heels and ladies who wear them, and have been tempted to buy a pair or two or three but they are just not my type. Pump heels offer such professional/sleek/sophisticate and elegant look but if you suffer a stinky feet syndrome then wear those closed toe shoes at your own risk. Ewwww!!!

{Bebe Shoes, Charlene Platform Sandals - $125}

Sandals come in so many different shape, size, style and color. I love how versatile they can be. There will always be something that suit everyone's preference and for different occasions from day to night...from the beach to the party...from grocery store to work...from playground to a high end restaurant. Paring possibilities are simply endless and fun.

Below are some more of my "sandals for the summer"

{Circa by Joan & David Shoes, Norabelle Wedge Sandals - $99}

{COACH MARIA SANDAL - $78}

{Photos from Macy's}

Are you a sandals kind of girl?

Lazy Rainny Day and Stripes~*

2012-02-05T19:24:00.000-08:00

In case you start thinking that I am slowly turning this blog into a food blog, I have a pleasure to inform you that I have no intention to do so yet. With that said, I broke free from cooking for a short bit and temporarily closed my kitchen to venture to the outside world this weekend to give myself a nice little break with the husband.

Weather has been pretty crappy in the past week or so. Perhaps a downfall of winter is this nasty, yucky and unpleasant weather that accompanies by the rain. Sure we need rain around here but rain absolutely turns me into a very lazy person (gotta blame on the weather, right?). I miss you sunshine!!!! To brighten up the dark and dull weather, I knew I needed a little mood booster like this stripe cardigan from Forever21. Is it just me or the price of stuff at F21 has gone up despite the fabric/materials have becomed ridiculously thinner and thinner? Am I crazy or what? I thought I was wearing a piece of paper. If not because of the gift card I received on Christmas last year, I didn't think I would buy anything from there. This cardigan was (supposedly) marked down to 50% from original price of $29 (approximately - and that was overpriced). It should have costed like $15 to begin with but once again I used gift card so no complain (until now - lol)

We really didn't do much this weekend and that was a good thing. The in-laws were so kind enough to watch our little wee one and keep her over night at their place so my husband and I could have a very rare chance to spend time together just the two of us. It was raining on and off all day on Saturday but that did not stop us from going. We went and got me a new phone. It is not an Iphone. Okay how about I never own an IPhone. I am not the one who needs to have the latest,hottest and the greatest. So a basic smartphone will do for me as long as I can make and receive a call, do basic browsing and tex. My husband on the opposite is a tech geek. I think he wishes he could upgrade his phone every 3 months if he could. Then we continued on to do some window shopping and to my husband's amazement I didn't buy a thing (even I was amazed, how about that?) despite the fact that we visited many of my favorite stores. Boy I wish I was in this "not in the mood to shop" mode for the rest of the year, we shall be rich!!

We eneded our super excited and adventurous day at the grocery by 7PM. Fun..fun..fun - what else can be more fun than grocery shopping, right? Boy it was so damn crowded. I mean it was 7 PM. Gotta thank the Super Bowl, zillions of people (okay not that many) just went out to stock up on food for the big day. I am not a sport fan so don't ask me Super Bowl related. I am super fun, I know.

Food, Beach Bum & Mercedes Shopping

2012-01-31T19:13:00.001-08:00

{Oh no I didn't make these two but I happlily ate one of them!!}

I know it has been a while since my last post so be prepared for a super long post here. After spending much needed time offline, I started to enjoy the life outside the blog a little too much thus less frequency on posts and interactions with all my bloggy fellows. Gotta miss blogging!! Recently, I occupied myself with super fun activities around my kitchen and refrigerator (okay being super sarcastic here) as some of you knew from my previous post that I start doing a weekly menu planning/cooking to help free sometime during weekdays. Not very fun but I know I appreciate all the hard work during the week when two hungry people (me and my little one) are starving by the time we get home. What a wonderful world when all I do is opening a fridge and find my treasures right there, ready to be heated and enjoyed!

{Clockwise: Korean Food at the restaurant, Homemade Italian Wedding Soup, Homemade Chicken and Pasta with Creamy Sauch and Homemade Blueberry Scones < not too impressed with the taste of this one though}

You probably saw a beach post previously and that may give you a hint. We are also planning our great getaways. On a more exciting note, it looks like I will certainly become an official beach bum because we have two AWESOME destinations on our travel map. One is kind of planned and another one is a total surprise. What?? Do you want to know where? Really? You do? Okay..okay.....we are going to..................................Phuket, Thaialnd and possibly Hawaii!!!!! Woooo Hoooooo!!!!!!!! Yippeeeeee!!!!! . This year already starts off with some exciting news. It is going to get better and better as the year progresses I am telling ya.

Beach Bum’s Destination – Paradise Found!

{Image from www.theracha.com}

Since the Hawaii trip will pretty much be planned and arranged for us, shall I start with a tropical destination far far away in Thailand? This past week I lost count as how many hours I spent searching and reading hotel / resort reviews on Tripadvisor. I am glued to Tripadvisor and Agoda as of late. If you are looking for a 4 or 5 star getaway in Phuket, ask Nelah because by this minute this girl pretty much knows the ins and outs of those 50+ hotels around Phuket.

Firstly Phuket was not on my map because I didn’t feel like hopping on another plane after a 24 hours flight. C’mon - after spending your life on a plane that long, the last thing you want is to hop on a plane - AGAIN. Knowing that it only takes an hour from BKK to Phuket is a bit comforting, but I would rather stick with the ground transportation and go with the traffic flow. The destination I originally looked at was “Hua Hin” which is a beach town about 2-3 hours away from Bangkok. Of course, the beach is far from perfect. Don’t expect anything glamorous..neither white sandy beach nor turquoise water to be seen in sight but you still can get an ambience. My plan was to take things easy and spend a few nights at a 5 star resort in a private pool villa to make up for the lack of beautiful beach, then drive back to spend the rest of time with family in Bangkok and of course go shopping..wahaha.

{Image from www.theracha.com} >> I am dying to go there even though I can't swim!!

However after hearing my husband’s much needed request (a.k.a. complaint) that he has always wanted to experience the famous Phuket beach for the 100th times and how I always spent every trip shopping my life away and blowing money on clothes, I felt guilty. I know my husband is so tired of following and carrying those 100 shopping bags around town. So upon his 101th request, dream came true. Phuket popped up on my map! Perhaps, he will be more willing to go shopping and carrying more bags after. With that said, my search started ALL OVER AGAIN!

Thanks to Tripadvisor and Agoda, you made my life MUCH easier. Can you believe how much information you could get just by reading those hopeful reviews of places you haven’t visited! Even though I was born and grew up in Thailand for 24 years, I must admit that I am not keen on traveling. I am a 100% pure bred city girl and do not have much adventurous experience exploring and traveling around the country so you are not going to hear a story of me trekking or anything like that. Doing an extensive research can be time consuming but it is so worth the hard work. I want to make sure our hard earned money is well spent especially when you are looking at a place that costs an arm and leg per night. Lord, have you checked out the prices of some of places? They are quite outrageous! I remember when I still lived in Thailand, I could not afford to go to one of these places because they were so darn expensive. Now that I make money in USD instead of THB currency, what a difference! Phuket is not really a destination for average/middle class Thais due to its hefty price tags on accommodations and such. It is sometimes cheaper to fly overseas! It is sad to know that some of the resorts / hotels are partially owned/operated by foreign investors who can afford to buy some remote and underdeveloped islands and transform them into 5 star facilities. I guess it is good that local people have jobs but the sad part is a big chuck of money goes directly to investors who are not Thais. That also left me wondering how many islands out there that that have not been exploited by tourism.

{Image from www.theracha.com}

It is so obvious that I will have to significantly trim down on my shopping budget in order to stay at one of these paradises on earth (can you hear a big “sigh” from this shopaholic?). We have finally found a few potential hot spots for our getaway with breathtaking view. Paradise found~

The Racha (means the king in Thai language): this MUST be a paradise on earth. I have always..always..and always wanted to experience The Racha resort because the beach is breathtaking and stunning. Look at the powdery white sand and crystal clear turquoise water. Oh..heaven. You know how some photos have been heavily modified by Photoshop to the point that the real place looks nothing like photos. This place seems like a real deal. I looked at photos posted by travelers on Tripadvisor.com and they are equally stunning. LOVE!! Can’t wait to see with my own eyes.

{Images from www.theracha.com}

Villa Zolitude: this place is so ideal for someone with Tsunami phobia like myself. Why? Because it is up on a mountain and GORGEOUS!! The best of both worlds for beach and mountain lovers. My husband is giddy and so excited because he is more into mountain/jungle while I am a total beach bum. This place is just stunning in every direction you turn. I don’t mind that it is far away from the beaches because you can easily get to ones in about 15-20 minutes with local transportations right outside the resort gate. I love the fact that it is so secluded, peaceful and far away from hustle and bustle of busy nightlife hot spots. This is a spot where you really get to connect with nature and inhale full breath of fresh air. It seems like a pure relaxation. Look at a stunning scenery of greenery and mountain view, it is an ideal place for bird watching / sunset and sunrise viewing. What’s more? There is a private pool in each villa! Visit their website to see more stunning photos of each villa {here}. View additional amazing photos and floor plans of all Villas from this Thai traveler {here}.

Enough for a beach bum's life. I don't think I have ever shown you all what's in my garage so here is a one time chance to take a peek. Ready?

YEAH RIGHT!!! Wouldn't that be nice to have one of these babies in my garage?!? Thanks to my husband who is a car geek. He LOVES and never misses an annual Auto Show so this year he managed to go alone without me. So much for just looking, he brought home a few brochures from Mercedes and that was where the trouble began. He knows Mercedes is my dream car and kindly did some research for me on a particular model - how thoughtful. So we went on for a somewhat car browsing and testdrove "it" and we just loved "it" more and more. It seems like we have found a potential new hot ride but we gotta wait. Now I am weighting my option, 4-5 birkin bags for the price of one mercedes..wahaha. I would pick a hot ride in heartbeat though. Who knows Santa may deliver one for me at Christmas this year or nothing at all. Sniff..sniff. Life is full of surprises, isn't it?

Countdown to A Great Getaway Part I

2012-01-24T13:19:00.000-08:00

There is something very fascinating about the beach to me in general. White sand....cool breeze....the sound of waves...water and sunny warm weather - picture perfect. I have always loved strolling along the beach with my barefoot and collecting sea shells. At night you spot thousands of stars acorss the sky. That translates a great sense of relaxation or what? If I had to choose between a mountain and a beach for vacation, I would choose a beach in a heartbeat. Does that mean I am a beach bum? Hope not.

{Nang Yuan Island in Surat Thani, Thailand: Photo Credit from www.lomprayah.com}

The most surprising fact though, I cannot swim ,or to say it correctly, too afraid to learn. The feeling of water entering my nose and ears are frightening. I remember I almost drowned in a public pool when I was young and that fear continues to haunt me. I can't get rid of it. So I will have to appreciate and enjoy from afar. Now, I know you are secretly planning a murder plot by taking me to the beach or on a cruise.

My parents took me and my brothers to the beach every summer break when we were young and that probably explains how my love for beach had developed. Thailand boasts ones of the most beautiful beaches in the world and I wish I visited more of them before I left my motherland. However I have to address that Tsunami did change many things. At some point when Tsunami devastated seaside villages down south of Thailand and many other countries along that attitude, my heart dropped and fear level escalated. It is hard to believe that once a paradise on earth could turn into a death zone in a blink of an eye. It swept away lives, memories and everything on the surface and left us with fears, tears and nightmares.

Flash back few years before Tsunami hit Thailand and Japan, my husband and I went to a few islands far far away in the middle of the ocean, two of them were Munnork Island in Rayong province and Nang Yuan Island in Surat Thani. Both are isolated in the middle of the ocean on the gulf of Thailand side (an opposite to Andaman site where popular destination such as Phuket and Krabi are situated). The view was out of this world breathtaking, serene, spectacular with white sand beach stretching as far as you could see and stunning turquoise clear water yet I woke up one night and found myself staring at the ocean thinking "what would happen if a massive wave hit" - I mean, what would happen. My answer was loud and clear because we were in the middle of the ocean.

{Munnork Island in Rayong, Thailand: Photo credit from www.phudoilay.com}

I first learnt about Nang Yuan Island from my mentor in college who used to work there briefly. He said that he once spotted a few dolphins and that truly intrigued me to go (I didn't spot any when I went though). Nang Yuan Island is also a very popular destination and a paradise for divers. My husband reported some beautiful and unique sea creatures while I could only stay in a shallow area of the beach. I missed out the fun part!! Check out www.nangyuan.com. On a very important note, be sure to check Monsoon season before you plan your beach getaway for your safety.

Since I am on the subject of beaches, this post would be missing something without mentioning seaside resorts. There are countless places ranking from affordable to super high end accommodations where you can rest in different level of comfort and luxury.

We are in the process of planning an "ultimate luxury getaway" for our future trip. I have never splurged on such five star facilites before but I really want to experience it and will tag my parents along as well (if only I can talk my mom to it, she is a big time work aholic and doesn't like to relax). I browsed countless numbers of resorts in the past few weeks which you will see some being featured in the future posts. Planning for a vacation is always exciting!

Your Blog is Lovely and so are "YOU"

2012-01-22T18:19:00.000-08:00

Recently, a sweet and beautiful Parveen of Handbags and Fashion Rags kindly gave me a Cute Blog award - Thank "YOU". I know I have to share and pass the love to a few more fellow bloggers to let them know how much I appreciate what they do by sharing bits and pieces of their lives/passion and how much I like their channel of thoughts and expressions.

For this award you:

1. Link back to the person who awarded you.
2. Answer the award questions.
3. Tell something about yourself that you haven't told anyone on your blog yet.
4. Award as many blogs as you think worthy of this award
5. Make sure to let those you gave this award to know that you awarded them.

The Award Questions:

1. What is your go to make-up brand?
I am not a make-up junkie and I don't use much makeup during the week but MAC has to be my most favorite one as of late. I LOVE..LOVE..LOVE their foundation. I just couldn't find a shade that match my skintone in any other brands. Recently I went out to try Chanel and Dior but didn't have any luck with neither ones so I am returning to MAC.

2. What was your favourite fashion trend of 2011?
Okay what was the 2011 trend anyway? Did that say much about me? I am not a trend follower and I pretty much buy what I like. I am not someone who read the magazine or watch fashion show so I don't normally know the trend. If I like what I see, then I will buy.
3. What is your favourite dessert?
I am a cupcake fanatic as of late.
4. Favourite colour?
Red
5. What is your middle name?
I don't have one. Weired or what?
6. What's the last song you listened to?
"Like I do now" by Chris Botti
7. Cats or dogs?
Cats, simply becuase I have two.

Random fact I haven't told anyone: I am a (partial) potato couch in the evening. Okay let's admit it. What else is more relaxing than sitting in front of TV after a day at work.

Award As Many People Who You Think Are Worthy Of This Award: these are blogs I regularly read so don't you dare stop blogging!
Handbags and Fashion Rags
Squeeze the Pugs
A Very Sweet Blog
Jo's Jumbled Jardinière
Statements in Fashion
Simplyvonne
CocoBella Ballerina
Chocolate, Cookies and CandiesStyle of Sam On another note, Kat of Katattack2000 featured me at her blog {over here}

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This week I spent WAY far too many hours in the kitchen, it felt like an eternity. Gosh I hate cooking!! I wish I am passionate about cooking like some people who spent countless of hours experimenting and having fun with new recipes but unfortunately I am not THAT passionate. I think if I had more free time, I may enjoy cooking more. It is challenging when you feel too tired by the end of the day, the fun just goes out the window. One of my goals this year is to try to bring back the "fun" in the kitchen, try new recipes and eat more at home. I can't tell you how much money we could have saved if we didn't eat at the restaurants so often. This weekend I made a major change and decided to do something different that hopefully will work in a long run. I implemented a weekly menu planning, cook and prep ahead of the game so that there will be less work during weekdays.

{Clockwise: Turkey meatballs before dumping them into pasta sauce, Turkey meatballs in pasta sauch, Turkey Chill and Chicken Noodle Soup}

Don't ask me how many times I failed at doing weekly menu planning in the past. Way too many. I think part of it is that I picked out dishes that were way too many steps, too complicated, the results were not too impressive and too time consuming...thus not practical, thus no motivation, thus I failed accordingly. I HATE..HATE...HATE those recipes which requires a long list of ingredients. I usually lose motivation if the list goes beyond 5 lines, really. So my new game plan is to stick with something that our family will like, guarantee to be tasty, quick, and can be prepared in advance. One day in a distant future, I would love to make a family cookbook that consists of the our favorite dishes/recipes and pass on to my daugther. On a surprising note (that is not too surprising to my husband), I ALWAYS maange to tweak the recipes even when I make it the first time. Call me a weirdo but I don't normally follow the recipes for some crazy reason. At times, I feel some ingredients are not an absolute necessites or it has too much salt or seem too unhealthy or this or that. Of course my food is not always edible because I am not a pro but hey 98% of the time it comes out pretty darn good.

1st Revelation of 2012: I am such a nerd!

2012-01-18T17:47:00.000-08:00

Glasses are my best friend, not really. When you are too chicken to go through the Lasik procedures like this girl does, contacts and glasses are pretty much your last resources. I have been wearing both contacts and glasses for YEARS. As a matter of fact, I used to wear contacts on a daily basis up to the point where I experienced the peak dry eyes stage and decided to swap to glasses to minimize the effect of Sahara dessert in my eyeballs. Since then glasses became my must-have accessories every awaken moment.

Glasses wearers know the pain of paying hundreds of $$$ for frame and lens at the doctor’s office or any retailers. Getting a pair of prescription glasses feels like you have been robbed. So when GlassesUSA.com contacted me awhile back, I was quite excited to learn that we had an alternate option. My husband and I are due for our eye check-up this year, thus new lens/frames = more $$$$$..cha ching..cha ching. We may give them a try later this year and will report back of the experience.

My main concern about ordering eyeglasses online would be a fitting issue since we
can’t actually try them on and get them adjusted on site. However, GlassesUSA website states that any retailers will do it for a small fee or we can simply send them back to them to get adjusted. Since their prices are much lower than most
places, it would not hurt to pay a small fee to get glasses adjusted in my opinion.

Of course, you want to buy cheap eyeglasses but it is also important that the frame suit your facial shape. Can you try them on? Yes..yes and yes! - I had so much fun with this virtual mirror which allows you to upload your photo and try on different frames right in front of your computer and take all the time you
want with as many frames as you desire to find Mr. Right.

Are you ready to spot me in a nerdy version? Here goes………..

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Bangkok Trip Recap

2012-01-16T17:25:00.000-08:00

{On a long haul flight 24 freaking hours that felt like an eternity including a layover in Narita}

It has been almost a year since our first family trip of three to my motherland. It was a nerve wracking one, it was a trip of a lifetime and it sure felt like a lifetime on the plane. I remember my husband and I were so unsure whether we made a right or wrong decision to bring a freshly turned two years old on such a long trip, not knowing what to expect. It literally took "months" of researching, buying things and preparing for that trip. Traveling with a small kid takes travel to a whole new meaning. Although she did fairly well for her tender age, we were extremely exhausted trying to keep her entertainted and felt as comfortable as it could be. I knew we swore we would never do it again but HECK we are ready to go back! (try to focus on the time we step our feet outside the airplane and pretend the plane ride part never exists). At the end of the day, we knew it was worthwhile when I saw smiles on my family members' faces and the bond they created on such a short period of time. We were glad we made it happen.

{In her pajamas}
{The morning after}

As I was browing through photos in the computer, to my amazement I did not realize that I took quite a handful of food photos. I must really miss the food there or something to the point that I had to take photos in order to remind me how tasteful they are. Food is so incredibly comforting and has such healing power. It brings back memories and good times. I have always loved my dad's homecook meal and I could care less about eating out at restaurants when we visit. I believe everyone's food has such unique taste that is hard to duplicate. It is something that feeds both our body and soul. Crazy but true, every time before we visit I make my "food" wishlist upon traveling to make sure I accomplish my food tour mission.

1) Homemade Chicken Curry with Thai Eggplant (OMG - my favorite of all) 2) Steamed shrimp and pork dumplings/buns 3) Thai Hot and Sour soup with prawns and omelette 4) Noodle with pork in gravy sauch or Rad-na 5) Thai dessert wrapped in banana leave - slap me in the face because I forgot what it is called 6) Tamarine - it was the first time I tried this young/raw tamarine, very intersting but it is supposed to be good for your health.

Precious~

2012-01-15T19:11:00.000-08:00

Many things happened in a short span of two weeks - be it the celebration of life or the unexpected death of a family member. All these events in life greatly remind me that life is too precious to ignore or to play with. I used to be one of those many people who take things for granted and have to learn it the hard way by losing the loved forever. That is not the way it should be - when is too late and there are many things we regret doing or not doing. Life is more fragile than we ever realize.

{A decoration by mama}

While we celebrated my daughter's 3rd birthday this month, another family member passed. I didn't learn of the news until a day later. An uncle who lived in Thailand passed away at home unexpectedly due to a bee sting allergy. He was in his early 60's, a few years younger than my dad. My mother did't handle it very well. She is very closed and attached to his older brother whom became like her father. After my maternal grandmother passed away, my uncle had been my mom's pillar of emotional support. Now that a pillar collasped, it left her nothing. I could feel her pain through her voice. I was not closed to him because he lived outside Bangkok and we never spent a lot of time together as I was growing up, but hearing such news sent chills down my spine. He passed away on the same day as my dauther's birthday. I paused and thought, each day has different meanings for each person. While we were having fun and celebrating the life, another person was in great pain and lost his life. It is a contrast...it is like a black and white picture.

Enough for the sad part, we threw our little girl a small birthday party and invited only family members for the 3rd year. I have never been into the idea of having an extravaganza birthday party for kids because I feel that it is too much. I want my daugther to grow up and understand the core value of family, that the birthday is not about having a big party, not about getting presents, not about having 50 friends over but it is about celebrating the day with people who love her dearly and will be there for her. Someone once told me that birthday should remind us of how our mothers went through the great pain in order to give us lives. I couldn't agree with that anymore now that I am a mother. When her birthday rolls around year after year, I couldn't help but think about the day she was born. The pain was almost unbearable but it was such a joyful pain you never want to forget.

Onto bithday decorations, I did it all by myself. Lord, I didn't get to go to bed until almost midnight!! Boy was I glad we decided to order food and cake instead of getting the pot and pan out to cook. I couldn't imagine dragging my a** up in the morning after a few hours of sleep to whip up some good old homecook meal. That would have been a bad idea. Everything turned out great. Good food, yummy cake and memorable and blissful day. Cheers to a big 3 years old. I love you more than any words can describe.

Dior, Clarins, Too Faced and more..

2012-01-08T09:57:00.000-08:00

Ever since new year began, I started out wtih many text heavy posts in a row. How about photo heavy post? Let the photos explain it all.

1-3: A handful selection of handmade accessories and the ones I bought in the past. MIx and match them into something new and exciting. Make old new all over again.

4-6: A surprise Christmas goodies all the way from a very sweet Peh Sun of Squeeze the Pug. Made it just in time for Christmas. She noticed that I have been on "Dior kick" as of late and like smokey eye look. This lady is beyond thoughtful and has become an amazing friend whom I thought she must be my soul sister. Crazy but it is true.

7-8: A few goodies bought form Sephora a month ago. Clarins HydraQuench cream & Too Faced > Reviews will soon come.

9: My favorite weekend breakast - Steelcut oatmeal with banana, walnut and cranberries.

A Love Letter to Mothers-to-be~*

2012-01-05T06:44:00.000-08:00

This post is especially dedicated to my two best friends “Ms. D” and “Ms. P”, who soon will start their journey in the wonder world of motherhood.

Ms. D, I know that you have been waiting for this moment forever to bring a child into this world. I could feel your anticipation, excitement and frustration.

Ms. P, while you say you were not ready to become a mother when we last talked somehow I sensed that your inner self was whispering softly that you were anxious to know what it is like to be one. Now that it is official you are a preggo, there is no turning back.

{Image via weheartit}

You two are very special to me. I couldn’t be more excited for you to begin your own adventure and share with me the up and down times. Your life is about to change in a way you have never imagined. I am not going to lie or sugarcoat that every moment in motherhood is fabulous, awesome, wonderful and ecetra..ecetra. It is going to be challenging, frustrating, tiring and exhausting but at the end of the day when you look at that previous little face sleeping peacefully – you will find peace, love and an answer to life in a way you have never experienced with anything in the world.

There will be times when you scream like a maniac…pull your hair…have such intense anger...feel so darn tired all the time…hate and want to divorce your husband…be on the edge of marriage a few times...act like a mean bitch…feel as if a germaphobic…can’t manage your time…feel like you forever lose an independence...are extremely sleep deprived…feel that you may die young from stresses…can’t balance your life as a mom vs a career woman…feel like you fail…cry out loud…feel depressed…are worried about every little thing…not knowing if you are doing the right thing…feel like a fool…have mommy’s guilts…have moments you regret…wish you could turn back time to fix those moments.

I want you to know that I have been there. I have done those things and I want you to know it is absolutely normal to act, to feel or to be ones on those things mentioned above. It is okay.

No matter how much we read..no matter how much we prepare – there will be times when things are out of controls. We will no longer be a center of a universe. People will no longer care much about you and the first thing they ask "how is the baby?" and more questions about baby and perhaps how you survive motherhood and sleepless nights. No fret my dear, you will always have me by your side and will always give ypu the same amount of love & attention.

Motherhood is all about learning from trials and errors. No one knows it all.

Having a child does not only change your life, it changes lives of people around you. It is a family’s business. The birth of a child brings joy to older generations which in turn can bring some stresses and pressures. You may find yourself being more irritated than usual especially if you live close to your relatives. Hang in there. Just try to remember they have good intention.

...Motherhood makes you cry over things that you didn’t previously have any concern before…motherhood brings out the best and worst in every woman...motherhood brings out both emotional and physical strengths you have never realized you have….motherhood shows you what an unconditional love truly means...

Wishing you an enjoyable, healthy, stress-free, pain-free, tantrum-free pregnancy...

With love,

Nelah

Meet My "Maid"~*

2012-01-04T12:27:00.000-08:00

I know you all are thrilled and extremely curious to meet my “live in” maid so I am doing this post to make a proper introduction of her. My husband is OVER THE MOON, I think he likes this Christmas present more than I do. In a way, I believe he got this for himself so that he does not have to clean anymore. Asking him to clean the house is such an extremely..extremely ..extremly unpleasant and tiring thing to do. I have no idea how many times I almost bring him to court for a divorce because of this reason.

{image via weheartit}

Without further ado, meet our newest addition to the family – a Robot Maid. You read it right, people. “Neato” – a robotic vacumn that always works hard and will never complain. My husband loves it so much that he thinks it should have a name so he decided to call it “D2R2” and sometimes “Betty”.

{She is beautiful, isn't she?}

Okay I was SUPER skeptical and not sure how to react when I unwrapped the present and saw this thing. You know how men are such a tech geek when it comes to high-tech toys, they are as excited as seeing a naked woman. As a woman, seeing this weird looking thing in a box did not excite me much but OH MY GOD…OH MY GOD…my reaction was completely different when I witnessed how this little gadget did its magic. PRETTY AMAZING – I must say!! The world of vacumn cleaning has taken on a new delightful meaning ever since.

{Evil hairball bitches!! Look at their facial expression - it portrays bad..bad attitude}

Vacumning is not a difficult task but having TWO cats and an active little child is another story. Cat lovers know exactly what it is like to go after and clean up cat hair. Our house gets dirty really quick and needs to be vacumned on a daily basis which can be dainting, given that my husband and I both work full time and we have an energetic two year old little girl to keep up with. As soon as you clean up, new spots of cat hair / dirts show up in no time. It is a never-ending job, really. Do you want to know how many vacumn cleaners do we have in our household? – “Two”. A pricey Kirby Sentria which is as loud as having a construction site next door and a pet hair vacumn cleaner. I do not want to sound like a lazy bum here but juggling that huge and heavy Kirby vacumn cleaner out to clean everytime is not ideal. Now all we have to do is hitting a “start” button and let Betty do her job, while we go on and do other chores around the house.

You all have probably seen “Roomba” - the first ground breaking hi-tech cleaning robot that came out a few years ago. Neato is its rival which has better reviews and supposedly has superior performance. My husband first ordered a Roomba but decided to return it because he found that Neato had better reviews. This vacumn cleaning robot is NOT meant to take place of an old fashioned vacumn cleaning method because it will not clean 100% (but I would say it covers 90% - 95% of the surface). You still have to use your vacumn cleaner but MUCH less frequently. In order to help this robot does its job more efficiently, it is important to prep the area by picking up stuff off the floor. Once you hit a start button, it quicly scans the room and starts cleaning along the edge then inner areas and throghout the house. My husband got a great deal on this before Christmas. Regular price is $399 but he got it for $299 with a free cordless wet/dry dirt devil vacumn. We are talking about deal here, people!

Pros

- Work great in hard-to-reach areas such as under the bed, cabinets, table, chairs which most vacumn cleaner can not reach. I am amazed to see the amount of dust/dirt and etc. it picks up under the bed.

- It does an excellent job cleaning and picking up pet hair / dirt / dust and small particles

- It doesn't hit the wall or objects in the house. It goes from room to room until everywhere is cleaned. Amazing how it remembers its path.

- Great suction power. Never realized how dirty my carpet is..haha.

- It goes on different surfaces seamlessly – from carpet to tile to woodfloor and does not get stuck under the dining table where there are many chair legs in its way. It manages to get in between and around to clean. Even on certain raised surface, it does not get strucked. Very entaining to watch how it works.

- Noise level is very bearable, not nearly loud as our vacumn cleaner. You can still watch TV.

- Save time and sanity. Once we hit start, you can forget about it. It goes on to do its job and even goes back to a base on its own to recharge when battery is low or the job is done. If the job is not done but battery is low it will go back to its base, recharge, comes back to finish where it left off. HOLY COW!! All you have to do is empty the container! AMEN! It does not need supervision.

- Keep the cats entertained, they love following it around the house – lol

Cons

- Due to its shape and size, you can not expect it to clean and reach corner thoroughly

- I really wish it has a voice or speaks to notify when the container needs to be emptied

Verdict: LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE, thanks Santa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now, I want another one that mobs and sanitizes the floor. That will be PERFECTO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Disclaimer: We are NOT affiliated with the company in any way and do NOT get compensated by doing this review. The product was purchased with 100% of our money. My opinion is based on my personal experience with the product and 100% of my own.

Break free from blogging: Goodbye to stress & followers

2012-01-03T13:57:00.000-08:00

As a new year has just begun, everything seems like a brand new start and things are refreshing, positive and bright. You previsouly saw my goals, commitments and resolutions for 2012 which reflect my personal life. Onto a blogging side, I would also like to give this blog a fresh prespective in order to get my blog off the right foot.

I almost stopped blogging in December - I really did. Some of you may notice that my blog posts were quite sporadic during that period. I had a down time with blogging, took a step back and thought through many things. It was silly - I felt this blog was not good enough. "What is enough?" "When is enough?" Those were the questions I repeatedly asked myself out load during my blog lilfe crisis. While many blogger friends said "blogging should be fun". I found that many people who said that couldn't even have fun with their blogs but they simply didn't want to admit or say it out loud. They too "struggle" at times. It is easy to get caught in the rhytm of blogging and an idea of growing/improving blog that will attract more readers/traffic had cultivated in my mind.

That was EXACTLY what really stressed me out in this whole blogging thing in the past few months.

I wanted to have more followers. I wanted to receive more comments/feedback. I wanted to keep a number of my total pageviews above certain numbers. I wanted to connect with more people. The more I tried, the less desireable results I saw. I got fed up, my excitements/joys slowly died down because things did not go the way I hoped it to be.

I simply wanted and expected too much. High expectation was what stressed me out when things didn't go the way I wanted it to go.

I love blogging, I really do. I started this blog as a way to rebalance my life as a new mom 1 1/2 year ago. Funnily, now I have to find a balance in blogging instead. Having too much of something is never good, it never will be.

I stepped back and redefined this blog. My goals and mindset on blogging are always changing and at times I felt I had no direction at all. So now I am making a few major changes and start a new set of prespectives in blogging, I.....

*Removed "followers" gadget from my page. It had been a distraction for the longest time so I eventually got rid of it. A number of followers mean so much to many bloggers including me. There were days I elated when I had more followers and of course days I felt down when people stopped following. It simply left me with these questions - "why?" and "was my blog not good enough"? Now that "followers" gadget is gone. I no longer care who follow me/stop following me altogether. I'll only use a total pageview as an encouraging indicator.

*Let go of all the expectations and a sense of obligation to blog. I shall blog whenever I feel like blogging. No more feeling of "I feel bad when people click to visit but don't see anything new" or "great, my total pageviews drop significantly because I didn't do a new post" or "five people stopped following me when I hadn't blogged for a few days. You may not see my posts as frequently as the way it has been. A sense of anticipation is sometimes better than knowing exactly what is next or when is next.

*No longer go out to discover new blogs and comment. If they find me, they do. If they don't, they don't. I am not going to go above and beyond to put myself out there. I'll be right here in my small and quiet corner of blogsphere, do what I love to do and share with those who want to hear and connect.

*Stop reading "how to improve your blog", "how to make a better post", "how to attract more audiences" altogether. Those efforts can easily turn blogging into "chore/work/stress", it really can. I have a fulltime job in real life, I am not quite ready to take on a second job at the moment. Whenever the time feels right and I feel ready, it may be different but for now it is strictly a hobby and should feel like "hobby" with no obligations."hobby" with no obligations.

*Stop following many blogs which I followed in the past. I followed those blogs because they followed me but I never ONCE read their blogs. Now I only keep a handful of blogs which I have frequent interaction with the blog owners who in turn want to interact with me /or have become special blogging friends. There are many blogs which I visit often but never follow them. I feel that many readers of this blog may not even have blogs so they can't follow or simply do not feel like they "have to" follow. We have a freedom to choose. There is no obligation, and should never be. It is not about the quantity, it is about the quality.

Now for the things I will continue to do with this blog. I have always been TRUE to myself from the very begining. I do not copy or try to be someone else. Every post on this blog reflects who I am and what my mind wants to speak out. I am not a fashion blogger, not a mommy blogger, not a beauty guru. I am a jack of all trades, I blog about random subjects I am passionate about or feel like sharing..rambling..venting..complaning..raving and believing in. I never blog to please anyone. I do not feel like my posts have to always be informative or offer any values to readers. I do not try to teach anyone in particular. Sometimes it offers no knowledge, no additional value but it gives me joy and that's what matters. It is about my journey in discovering/experimenting things I love or dislike with life, fashion, trend, hobbies, handbags, designer labels, travel, life in the States vs Thailand career, finance, photography, motherhood and ecetra..ecetra. Most of all, I want to connect with people who share or have the same or similar interests with me. I think I have accomplished this goal because I have found some really amazing blogger friends who make this journey more more "enjoyable".

This post reflects everything I had been wanted to share and I couldn't be happier that these changes are in effect. Cheers to a freedom to blog.

A Brand New Start~*

2012-01-01T20:16:00.000-08:00

Every year when the first day of the year begins, it always is a good time to reset ourselves and things in life and account it for a brand new start. As a matter of fact, I feel that we do not have to wait until Jan 1st to begin or change. Everyday is a new day and can be a fresh start but Jan 1st always seems very special.

You will not beleive what I did to give 2011 a farewell goodbye, I literally cleaned the house non-stop this weekend until midnight on Dec 31st, 2011. You know once you get into the groove and you just can't stop. That's right!!!! Not exactly the fun way to celebrate but when would be a better time, right? I have been so FAR behind the housecleaning projects along with decorations and so on every since we settled in since 2007. Then a year later I got pregnant and decided to put everything on hold, and the rest was a history. Our house is out of wack. I know I have always blamed on the challenge of not being able to keep up due to the fact that there is a tot in town but it gotta gets done somehow before my house is being featured on "Clean my house" TV show on TLC channel!! Right now everything is on the brighter side, I couldn't be happier.

My other HUGE milestone today was to be able to move my little girl who soon to be 3 years old to her OWN bedroom. Okay - okay I admit that I have a severe seperation anxiety and people/children experts proably think I am crazy and I already ruin my daugther's life by keeping her in the same room since she was born. My husband and I had this debate for almost three years and he always insisted that the little one slept in her own room so that she could develop a sense of independencey..blah..blah..blah. I don't really see the point people are talking about because I slept with my parents for quite a while and I grew up just fine. I dont' have any self-esteem issue or became entirely dependent on anyone. To me, I feel it is a "bond" and it is about a child's readiness and willingness. In a way, I admit that I wish I could keep this moment forever , soak it all it and I didn't want her to grow up too fast. It may be silly to think that way. Today, I did it - not feeling pressured by anyone. I couldn't feel any more confident when I saw the look on my daugther's face. About a month ago, I went to visit my friend's house whom her daugther goes to the same daycare (they are about the same age). We were invited to see her cute little bedroom and I could see how excited my daughter was when she saw her little friend's room. Right at that moment, I was so sure that she's ready and I should encourage her to grow and respect her wants and needs as a little person. She is no longer a baby...no longer a baby (I have to keep repeating this over and over). Hallelujah - 1/1/2012 marks a very special day in my history book. It represents a new milestone for both mother and daugther, with my husband delightfully dancing in the background. He sat in her room, soaked it in and said "I painted this room almost 3 years ago - it was a little late but so glad this happened" - bahaha

{Cardigan: Old Navy / Dress: from Bangkok / Boots: Steve Madden - Candence}

My New Year's Resolutions this year are simple - focus on home improvement projects & keep our finance in check. That doesn't mean you will not spot any eye or arm candies on this blog, folks. I still have 364 days to mess up and ruin my financial vows.

Thank you to my wonderful and loving mother in law, she must be the best cook in the world. She loves to cook and we LOVE to eat. We stick with a tradition - Black-eyed pea, Sauteed cabbage with bacon, Rosemary porkloin, Butternut squash soup and ended with some ice cream. YUMMMMMM.
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Just a reminder, I recently entered a contest hosted by Monster.com {here}. If you like the tips I shared and think it is useful, please help click the link :)

The Best of 52NewDays~*

2011-12-29T20:31:00.001-08:00

Around this time of the year, you see articles on “the best ….. / the worst…..of the year”. Be it “the best dresses of the year, the worst celebrities of the year, the most embarrassed moment, the most glorious moment and so on. So I thought why don’t I do something similar to round up posts and put them in different categories? Ladies and gentlemen – may I present you with the most popular / read posts, and some interesting statistics about this blog? Let’s get started.

Top 5 Most Read Posts of the year

La Mer: The Treatment Fluid Foundation Review

Miss Dior - an Alternative to Chanel Classic Flap

When I fall in love {with Steve Madden's Boot}

Rumor had (me) it!!

Korean Clothings

The Boldest Post of the year

You Are So Darn Annoying~*

Top 3 Most Personal Posts of the year

Experiencing "Blogging Blues"? & Tips to drive mor...

Love: Past, Present & Future

Harsh Reality

The Newest Adventure

Hey "Etsy"...Here I Come!!

New Handmade Bling~*

The Most Expensive Splurges of the year

Rumor had (me) it!!

A little something..Dior..~*

Let open that "orange" box

Top 10 Audiences sorted by Country
1. USA
2. Canada
3. UK
4. Singapore
5. Australia
6. Germany
7. Malaysia
8. Russia
9. Phillipines
10. Thailand

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Next week, I have a few “FUN” posts and tons of ideas lined up to welcome the year 2012.

What?

You can’t wait? You want to get a glimpse of those posts?

Okay..okay I guess I can reveal a wee bit of information. We shall start off the week with an interview of a FABULOUS blogger whom you do NOT want to miss, then I will make a proper introduction of my live-in maid whom I previously and briefly mentioned about {here}. Sound good? Now all you have to do is “wait” ;)

Okay ladies and gentlemen, I will send you off with this last post of 2011. It has been a memorable journey with up and down times on this little blog. I am just so glad this blog is up and running into its 2nd year – woo hoo!!! What will 2012 bring? I am looking forward to redefine what “52NewDays” is all about. From the very first moment I started out this blog in June 2010, I knew that I wanted to use this blog as a channel and tool to help rebalance my new mommy life, make more of my “me” moment and discover all the fun things I used to do before I had a child. Now that everything has fallen into its place with motherhood, career and time management, I want to redefine what this blog is about and which direction I want it to head to. This sounds like a soul searching journey, isn’t it?

Happy New Year to you all and hope your 2012 be filled with lots of love, success, good health, happiness and everything you wish for as well as peace and love for the world we are in.

How to "survive" a job interview & Giveaway by Monster

2011-12-28T09:51:00.000-08:00

{Recently I had been invited to join a contest hosted by Monster.com to write a blog post and promote BeKnown. Beknown app is a newly launched social networking tool join forced by Monster and Facebook to provide "YOU" an easy way for to search and apply for jobs without leaving Facebook. The app is fully integrated with FB, but enables users to separate personal from professional. You can use Beknown app to connect with individuals and build professional networking.} FB app > here & iPhone app > here

I do not to talk about my profession here, not because I am an FBI agent. My job may not sound exciting due to the fact that it does not land me in a front row seat at the New York Fashion Week. Hello - I am in HR and have been in this career for 7 years.

{Image via we heart it.com}

Job interview is an undesirable subject for many people. Personally, I have never encountered a “job interview gone wrong” situation or the “worst” interview experience that traumatize or terribly embarrass myself to the core.

Why job interview is so frightening?

First, it indicates whether you will get a job or not. Pressure much?? No matter how great your resume is, your career opportunity may say bye-bye on this judging day.

Frightening factor # 2, you will be questioned on certain topics you have no idea about and the worst part - you don’t know how to answer wisely.

Frightening factor # 3, you are talking to a complete stranger who could be your potential employer. That can be quite intimidating and nerve wracking.

I have been a job hunter and an HR person. Now I am in a position that screens and passes on qualified candidates to the prospective hiring managers, and eventually repeat this “sorry, the position has been filled” many times. Keep in mind that just like everything else in this world, we learn from our mistakes. The more interviews you go to, the more experiences you will gain - thus you feel more comfortable with situation. Here are some tips I live by:

1) Study about a company and a position: nothing is worse than going to an interview and know nothing. You don’t necessarily have to know the inside and out but at least some basic knowledge.

2) Read job description carefully and try to relate your experiences with the position.

3) Dress for success: no matter how slouchy, relaxed or frugal you are, dress PROFESSIONALLY. It is not about trying to be someone else but is about being respectful to your potential employer. Keep things simple, clean and conservative.

4) Read some random interview questions and practice

5) Don’t freak out, you are not getting a death penalty. After all, it is a job interview.

6) Do not talk bad about your former employer/co-workers. Everything that comes out of your mouth portrays your attitude.

7) Take a deep breath, smile, stay positive, be energetic, show confidence, keep good eye contact, give a firm handshake, ask questions.

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(If you need help with resume proofing, feel free to shoot me an email. I will be glad to review and make suggestion)

Now, there is something exciting for you. BeKnown and Monster are sponsoring a giveaway for one of my readers - you will receive a stylish business card holder and a Benefit Cosmetic Kit (may be a different set than what shown here). A winner will be randomly selected by a Random Generator on 1/9/12 by me. If you like my post and think it is useful, please help support by clicking a provided BeKnown link in a giveaway section.

**How to enter (you DO NOT have to be my follower)**

Mandatory: Visit BeKnown Fackbook app {here} - 1 point (no sign up or anything required - simply click to visit)

OPTIONAL for extra points

- Follow 52newdays (2 points)
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Be sure to leave your comment to specify that you want to enter this giveaway (so I can sepetate from general comment) & GFC username so I can contact you via your blog. If you do not have a blog, just leave your email so I can notify you if you win (a winner's prize will be mailed to you directly from Monster). If you do not wish to enter but just want to support, I truly appreciate your act of kindness too :)

Disclaimer: (1) the Blog Entry is part of a blogger contest sponsored by Monster and (2) I have received prize packs as a welcome package from Monster Worldwide and been invited to enter the contest via email to participate in Monster.com’s “Present The Best You” Online. I certify that my entry is 100% original and I am the sole and exclusive owner and rights holder of the submitted Blog Entry (first image is credited to wehearttit.com). By visiting BeKnown through my link, it helps track traffic from my blog to a BeKnown app which may help increase my chance to win their grand prize.

Exotic Queen~*

2011-12-27T19:38:00.000-08:00

{Dress: from Bangkok / Coat: Forever21}

Fall and Winter are the perfect times for animal prints to come out to play. Back in February of this year, I bought this dress from the land of far far away land and carried it back to the US with the hope that it could shine when the time was right. Today it came out to play.

Ladies and gentlemen, please welcome the newest addition to our family - a tiger. I couldn't help but snap a picture with it while wearing this dress. We love it to death already, can you tell?

**Giveaway is coming up tomorrow night, stay tuned**

Christmas Wishes & GIVEAWAY to come~*

2011-12-26T15:38:00.000-08:00

There were lots and lots and lots of presents and love under the tree and more. Christmas time is all about making new memories that will last our lifetime, and that the way it should be. I hope Santa brought you what you were hoping for this year and you had a lovely time with your loved ones.

Ever since my daughter was born, I felt that every Christmas becomes a whole lot more special. It was special before between the husband and I, yet having an addition makes Christmas so much fun in a very different way. The joy of seeing their anticipation & excitement in their eyes is priceless and fulfilling. This is the ONLY day in the year where I want more children, really .

There were all kinds of things under the Christmas tree - a car, a tweed jacket, some gift cards, kitchen utensils, clothes, doll, stuff animals and more. Yet our Christmas celebration is not quite over since not all family members could make it on Christmas day so we shall have another one on Tuesday to meet with my husband's two younger sisters. It is almost like a week long celebration because New Year's is just around the corner.

{My little girl who is almost 3 knew exactly what she wanted for Christmast this year - a pink car!!! Thanks grandma..ooops...Santa. I hope she will not put a Mercedes on her list 13 years from now}

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I left my Christmas wish # 4, my husband got me a LIVE-IN MAID...PEOPLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!! NO JOKE!!!! WOOO-HOOOO!!! I shall do a proper introduction of her soon.

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On another exciting note, (a sponsored) GIVEAWAY is coming this week. If you are up for a fabulous Makeup Kit as a New Year's gift, please stay tuned. I have some exciting posts lined up for days to come.

Oh $Money - Money~*

2011-12-22T19:58:00.000-08:00

Here comes part II of "2011 $Financial Wrap-up" {here}. I have compiled some of my learning experiences through personal money management over the course of years which I hope you will find helpful or interesting.

{image credit via weheartit}

Open separate bank accounts for different things: In addition to 401(k)), we have 1) an emergency saving account 2) a college saving fund for our little one 3) a taxes saving account (we pay an annual M.U.D. tax where we live plus a Homeowner Association Fee). Next year, I plan to open two more: 4) “emergency repair saving” for unexpected costs such as repairs on appliances/vehicles and things around the house 5) “Christmas shopping account”.

I find this to work really well for us to have money saved up for specific things without having to dip our hands in a main emergency saving. Okay now, you may think that my husband and I make shit load of money so that we have this many saving accounts to save our wealth. Hell no. We are very far from being a millionaire but we try to pay ourselves first and put some money into those savings. Small amounts add up over time.

Start saving when you are young: I started contributing to 401(k) at 25 years old at my very first formal employment in the US and am still continuing to do so up to this day. Saving at early age enables you to get ahead of the game. People manage their money differently and have different goal sets in lives. Some choose to splurge on luxurious items, some save up for big ticket item like a house, some choose vacation/travel. I was a proud home owner at 27 years old and couldn’t be happier. Whatever it is, set your goals and start saving.

Avoid buying during your first visit: I get excited easily so I have to slap my face, stop and think through on what I “really, really, really, really” want and the “true practicality” of any purchase. I have been into designer handbags this year and was on a close call in bringing home new babies from my favorite boutique on two separate occasions. It was very close!!!

I set myself a rule not to buy anything over $500 during my first visit to avoid buyer’s remorse for that reason. An excitement of seeing brand new and glorious items on shelves and pressure from some helpful/pushy SAs may contribute to a very unhappy purchase. Based on my experiences with two bags, I made at least 2 trips and took all the time I wanted with many deep thoughts. Don’t let that first impression or excitement blindside you because you may end up paying a huge price tag on something you do not truly love.

Use cash as a primary spending method. I have never been in debt in my entire life and will never want to based on what I see and hear other people’s horror stories. We do have one main credit card (not counting gas cards) which we regularly use to gain points and pay it off the next month in its entirely – no outstanding balance. It can be difficult to keep track with credit card spending but what I find to work best is “every time you use your credit card, instantly transfer money to save to pay for it later”. It is important to document…document and document your spending in some form to because it is so easy to forget what you had bought a week ago. You bet - I also have another saving account which I call “Credit card saving” for this. I transfer money from my checking account to this Credit card saving account everytime we use a credit card.

{image credit via weheartit}

Quality/practicality over quantity. In the past, I can’t even tell you how many small little things I blew money over. They were inexpensive, they were trendy, they were cute but don’t talk about quality or usefulness. Over times, the costs added up. Those items turned to junk and eventually went on to the landfill. I learn to think through my purchases many many times regardless how cheap it is. One dollar..two dollars…if it is not practical or will not add or give any value such as a statue that will just sit there collecting dust, I won’t buy. With that said, I am able to avoid so many unnecessary items/craps and stick to the “less is more”. I have begun to appreciate the concept of minimalism but we shall see how long this will last..haha.

Unsubscribe from retailer mailing list: this year I have waved bye-bye to about 8 of them so far and plan to unsubscribe them all. Good grief, you have no idea how many emails I have received from ToyRUS since November. Some days I got 5 freaking emails from them especially when Christmas is near. I mean 5 in a period of 24 hours!!!!!

Deals end soon! Buy NOW! Christmas is almost here! Lowest prices of the season! – c’mon I see that all year round!!!!!!!!!

These promotional emails really work on weak-minded individuals. The tone of email aims to influence you, rush you to buy and get you to think that you “actually” save some money. How about not buying at all? That is even better I say. Coupons and discounts work exactly the same way. We don’t even need anything but go out to buy just to use the coupons so that we feel that we do something good. In fact, we don’t. Let me illustrate: you have a $10 coupon of a minimum $30 purchase. You don’t really need anything at that particular store but go in anyway and start buying just to qualify for $10 discount. Yeah..so much for saving money.

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This is my last post for this week. I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas weekend with your loved ones. I shall return on Sunday night or so. Be sure you tune in next week. Now that I am back in the swing of blogging, I have some AWESOME posts lined up for ya!

2011 $Financial Wrap-up

2011-12-21T18:56:00.000-08:00

December and January are always the good time to get our financial check-up and revisit what matters most. So lately I have been thinking about numbers, numbers, numbers, numbers and more numbers for the most part as what to expect in 2012 –such as savings (for emergency, for a child and etc), major spending and emergency expenses.

It can be difficult to foresee the financial situations over the course of months but I always like to be on the safe side by trying to keep some money in an emergency saving account for rainy days which you never know when, given that we are in today’s challenging economy. Before I go on with my story, I have to tell you that I am a CFO (Chief Financial Officer) of our household who foresees and manages every single dollar of the incoming and outgoing $$$$. The husband and I both work full time.

{image via wehearit}

Being in a position that I am, a CFO, sometimes I let the thought and fear of “uncertainty and job insecurity” get the worst out of me. You look around, see or hear people losing their jobs all over the country and literally freak out. Recently I heard a story of a coworker who left the company not too long ago because she found a new and hopeful career in an oil and gas industry (which is booming here once again by the way). A month later, she got laid off!! She was there just for a few weeks!!! Now she is out of work and looking for an employment. Dang - talking about an uncertainty here.

A minimum of six month emergency saving used to be a stardard to go by but now they (those financial experts/analysts) are talking about a year’s worth of emergency saving! Are you kidding me?! I have already had enough challenge with six month’s worth of saving, my goodness. It almost seems like you have to keep up with an inflation and weak dollars as you go. Since I am the kind of gal who would rather have money in the bank, I choose to put more stress in my life and save as much as I could.

Until recently I asked myself “Is this the life I want to live?”. I don’t want the stress of saving to take the joy in life away. At the same time, I can’t bear the thought of blowing the hard earned money I have saved for years to satisfy my material needs.

{image credit weheartit}

Everything has to be in moderation, I need to find that balance. Hello – Mr. Balance..where are you buddy?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!?!??!?!?!?! I can’t find you.

Every year I learn something new on financial perspectives from my own successes and failures with personal money management. I am not a financial expert and I learn from trial and error. There are some major lesson learned in the area of spending / saving which I am happliy sharing them with you tomorrow in my Part II. Stay tuned.

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Are you more of a spender or a saver?

Under the Christmas Tree~**

2011-12-20T19:27:00.000-08:00

Thank goodness for a convenience and time saving of online shopping, you have saved my day this year! Our main gifts buying method is exclusively on the www for the sake of not having to hustle and buzzle along side with hundred other shoppers at the stores or risk a chance of not finding what we are looking for. And talking about the big plus, it is so incredibly easy to compare prices from one site to another with a click of a mouse. I am loving an online shopping now more than ever and ever!! On a surprising note, ToyRUs is not a good place to buy toys because most of their items mark up higher than other retailers such as Target and Walmart. Last year we exclusively bought EVERYTHING from ToyRUs for our little one because we shopped just a few days before Christmas (so much for being prepared) and did not have the time or sanity to go from place to place. Lesson learned, people!!

{Hermes Necktie / Aerogrow / Easel / Back Massager / VTech Kid Camera / Tiger - grr!!}

I don’t know about you but holiday shopping can be really overwhelming given that the mall is extra crowded and temptations are everywhere around this time. The sights, the scenes and the excitements of holiday season are great and I like that - but I find myself wandering aimlessly or end up buying something I hadn’t planned on buying. Advanced planning and online shopping are the way to go.

Now everything else under this line will not be under our magic tree, they are only in my imagination.

{Manolo Blahnik: Striped Mixed-Media Slingback Point Toe Pumps - Saks Website}

{Prada Patent Platform Pumps - Saks Website}

{Jimmy Choo: Owlet - Jimmy Choo Website}

{Christian Louboutin Simple Botta Knee-High Boots} << You sexy thing!!! How freakin' cute are these wedges?!?!
{Alice and Olivia Joyce Printed Canvas Wrap Wedge Sandals - Saks Website}

{Alice and Olivia Juliet Striped Canvas Wedge Sandals - Saks Website}

Bloggers Rock the Colors of Christmas~**

2011-12-19T18:02:00.001-08:00

{Fur Vest: Forever21}{Pants: Double Weave Columnist Pants in Mars Red in 00S}{Leopard Blouse: Sasha - old}{Purse: Rampage - old}{Bracelet: handmade by me}

A few weeks ago I received a lovely invitation from a fabulous Collette of Statements in Fashion to participate in a "Bloggers Rock the Colors of Chritmas" link up by wearing the Christmas color of your chice (red, green, white, gold, silver and blue). Since I am all about experimenting with colors these days, why not jumping on the bandwagon and celebrating this season in colors? Of course I chose a striking red from Express which I bought on Black Friday and paired ith with a black/gray leopard blouse, plus an ivory colored fur vest. A mix of texture / color and pattern is fun and upbeat with a splash of glamourous factor from a faux fur vest. Are you ready to party!?!?

On a side note, I am still very much alive and well. A brief period of disappearance from blog world sure was nice. If you happened to stop by a few times and didn't see any updates in the past few weeks and thought I may have alrady called it quit - not just YET. Da b*tch is back. Regular and frequent posts shall resume in no time. Thank you for stopping by.

Glam Night: Fur, White Dress & Red Soles

2011-12-11T10:22:00.001-08:00

What is the common color that people wear to the party? Black, black and black - you bet. Black attire is overrated at times in my opinion. The other night, my husband and I braced a chilly weather and went to my company's Annual Holiday Party at a hotel. At first, my plan was to wear a little black dress but I changed my mind as of last minute as I was browsing through a tiny of dresses in my closet. I came across this little white dress which I purcahsed in Bangkok earlier this year but completely forgot about it (what's new, right?) While most people went for a classic black color, I was picking an opposite shade and totally loving it. This ensemble turnede out exactly the way I visioned it - clean, sophisticated, fun, bright and chic.

{White dress and shoes: from Bangkok / Scarf: Hermes / Earring & Purse: Chanel / Fur Jacket: Macy's - several years ago}
{Foundation: La Mer / Eyeshadow and blush: NYX / Powder: Revlon PhotoReady / Lips: Vaseline}

Don't get me wrong, they didn't only serve desserts at the party but hey desserts are alwasy the hightlight of the meal course and they looked pretty. By the time an entree arrived, I was too hungry and couldn't care less about taking a photo.

Express Ultimate Columnist Double Weave Pants in Fantasia Blue

2011-12-08T08:38:00.000-08:00

{Blazer: Zara l Scarf: Vera Wang l Blouse: from Thailand l Pants: ULTIMATE DOUBLE WEAVE COLUMNIST PANT in Fantasia Blue (00S) l Boots: Croft and Barrow}

I am all about bright and bold colors as of late. No surprise when I saw these Express pants, I ordered two immediately in Fantasia Blue and Mars Red on Black Friday since they offered 40% off on everything. My last Express pants purchases were since last year so it was about time. I have always loved pants at Express because of its sexy silhouette, sleek & modern design and they create this amazing effect that make your legs look longer. The best part, they come in small sizes that fit shorter ladies like myself (just wish more styles/colors are available in 00S). However, their prices are on the high side - at about $80 a pair but I personally never buy at regular price. Thank god, they often have coupon or great offer like buy one get a second pair 50% off or etc.

This particular style is made of 49% Polyester/47% Cotton/4% Spandex (the older columnist I bought last year had more cotton and much thicker than this version). It is Low rise, slim fit, barely boot leg. Big plus, machine washable!!!! One thing I learn, it may not be a good choice to wear with knee high boots as the fabric gathers up above the boots and kind of ruins the look. I have to constantly smooth out the pants. It is better worn with heels. The lenght is perfect given that I am almost 5'2", it is a tad bit loose around the waist but I can deal with that.

No more "Bah Humbug"~*

2011-12-06T07:37:00.001-08:00

Thanksgiving flew by as if it did not even happen – at least that’s how I felt. On that Turkey day, I didn’t even feel like Thanksgiving despite the fact that I stuffed my face with a variety of scrumptious Thanksgiving dishes like there was no tomorrow. So now Christmas is near, I know I have to get myself up to the speed and get in a Christmas mood. My husband knows how lazy and not-so-fun I can be at decorating for holidays.

….Halloween – no decoration….

….Thanksgiving – no decoration…

….Christmas – almost no decoration…

If not because he brought down a tree and those ornaments from an attic and laid them all over the living room, “Bah Humbug” would be written all over my face and body folks!

The very first year I arrived in the US, my excitement went up the roof and shot up to the sky. You know in Thailand, the majority of the population is buddhist so we don’t celebrate Christmas in our household let alone having a Christmas tree in our houses (except at major hot spots or shopping malls around town that decorate for festive vibe). My first Christmas in the US was without our own tree, since we still lived in a teeny tiny apartment we didn’t have an urge to buy one. I went and helped my in-laws decoreated theirs instead. After we moved into a house and had a bigger space a few years later, we finally bought our first tree from Michael’s which we still use today. Somehow my excitement dies down a bit and my laziness has taken over..blah..blah..blah.

This past weekend, I pulled a trigger and got that evil lazy spirit out of me. Believe it or not people?? I decorated!!! My soon-to-be three year old little girl helped decorate our Christmas tree. She did a great job even though she lined up all the ornaments at the very very bottom in a perfect straight line and broke a few already. It is the memory that counts. I even made a video that I know I will cherish for years to come.

Nelah's Crazy Little Dream List~*

2011-12-05T07:47:00.000-08:00

When we are in December, first thing that comes to most people mind is "Christmas present". It wil be very appropriate to present you with my dream list. I mean who cares what Nelah wants, right? but I will do it anyway for the fun of it. This list is strictly a "dream" list which most likely will not come true anytime soon or never but we all can dream and play "what-if I won a lottery" game. Once you are done reading mine, share what are on your list.

1) First class plane tickets for a family of 3 to Bangkok, preferbly on Emirates: okay that will probably cost like $xx,xxx. Just a tad bit more expensive than Economy seats. Boy oh boy, have you seen first class seats on Emirates??!?!? What a dream comes true for a long haul travel. Sitting in a not so confortable economy seat for a total of 20+ hours makes my butt and back hurt badly.

2) A Dog: we currently have two cats that my husband rescued several years ago but thinking about adding a dog to a family instead of having a second child (okay now you think what the heck).

We are not in a serious stage though and the most important part is that my husband and I can NOT agree on which type of dog to get. Thank god, we both like big dogs. I mean "BIG".

Do you want to hear what my dream dogs are? I give you 10 seconds to guess...............tick..tok..tick..tok..............Time is up!! 1) German Sherperd 2) Doberman Pinsher 3) Rotwieler . Okay now you are thinking I am crazy and why in the world I want a killer dog. I love "mean looking" dog and that is my only answer. I have ALWAYS dreamt of owning a German Sherperd ever since I was a little girl. In my neighborhood back home in Thailand, I often saw this German Sherperd everytime I walked past that house and I just fell in love at how beautiful that dog was. My next two choices are such great guard dogs for my little one and I love how they look. No one will ever want to come close..haha. Of course, we will want to get a puppy so they can grow up together.

On the other hand, my husband totally wants a "Great Dane!!!!". I think that is just a tad bit too big. We can never settle on a choice so it doesn't look like we will have a dog. We might as well have a second child.

3) A Baby-sitter who will be available at anytime: Yeah.. .dream on

4) A maid

5) A fushia Birkin, a large Lady Dior in black and a red m/l Chanel flap. I don't only want one, but three under a Christmas tree!!!

Now tell me what do you want Santa to bring?

Flight Attendant Style & Beauty Blog Roundup

2011-12-02T06:23:00.000-08:00

{Top: from Junior's Department at Kohl's - purchased ages ago / Scarf: Hermes / Skirt and Belt: Forever21 / Boots: Croft & Barrow / Bag: Rampage}

No, I am not a flight attendant. And no, this is not a flight attendant's uniform. Okay, I don't know why but I almost always relate scarves with flight attendants of those Asian's airlines. I guess I can say that in some way I draw an inspiration from them to create this look (including the hair). What I like the most about this outfit is the burst of bold colors on a scarf. They provide such great contrast on a solid dark color outfit like this chocolate brown top. So my next question is "What would you like to drink sir/ma'am?"

On a quick fact note, I used to worked briefly for a Hong Kong based airline (Cathay Pacific) before moving to the US.

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My Favorite Beauty Blog Round-up

I had been meaning to do this for quite sometimes now to share a list of my favorite beauty blogs with you so you all can discover the goodness of these talented beauty bloggers. Beauty blogs were the very first blogs that introduced me to the blogsphere. There are a handful of blogs that I frequently visit and count on their opinions for thorough product reviews / tips / tricks with makeup or simply enjoy their photos. Here is a list of both old and newly found talented bloggers that I highly recommend, they are the rising stars.

It’s Always Summer on the Inside (England): Nadia is drop dead gorgeous, literally she can be a beauty queen. She does product reviews (mainly high end brands such as Chanel, YSL and etc) along with awesome outfit posts and random hauls.

Bang Bang She Shoots (Japan): Nic Nic is a British born Chinese living in Tokyo. You bet, she reviews a lot of beauty products including Asian brands. Sometimes she will throw in some cute outfit posts as well.

PrettyMaking (US): Mandy is a freelance makeup artist. I find that her makeup is youthful and very edgy. Her smokey looks are pretty awesome, you should check out her Halloween costume and makeup.

The Makeup Edition (Australia): Stacey ALWAYS blows me away with her colorful and stunning eye makeups. Out of all beauty bloggers I have seen, I think she does the best eye makeups. I really wish she lived next door, I would offer her my face as a test subject.

Handbags and Fashion Rags (England): Parveen provides very thorough product reviews. She is a beauty herself. I thought she looks somewhat similar to Victoria Beckham but much more beautiful and youthful. Her taste in fashion and choice of accessories are impeccable. I only discovered her blog a month ago but have already been hooked, can’t wait to see what she has to share.

Annie of Really Petite~*

2011-12-01T07:07:00.000-08:00

Today’s guest post has nothing to do with blogging tips or fashion but I can tell you that it is as good or even better than that. My guest blogger today is one of my longest fellow bloggers whom I have known since 52NewDays’infant days. To be exact, she is a seventh follower of my blog who still read this crazy / bitchy little blog.

Please give Annie of Really Petite a warm welcome and a full round of applaud. Some of you know Annie as one of the petite bloggers in a Petite Blogging Community but once again this post has nothing to do with Fashion which she typically shares. Fashion is overrated!!!!! You are about to get to know Annie in a completely different angle as a daughter, a wife, a working woman and a female entrepreneur.

Nelah: As a little girl, what did you want to be when you grew up?

Annie: Ever since I could remember, I have always been an entrepreneur. As a little girl, I would dream of owning my own business. I didn't know what type of business but I just knew I wanted to be my own boss. I think a lot has to do with watching how hard my parents worked.

Nelah: Who are some of the most important people in your life that influence you and shape you into who you are today?

Annie: My mom is the most important person in my life. She has been the biggest influence in who I am today. My family was very poor and my Mom worked 3 jobs just to provide for us kids. I think that's what drives me the most. I want to give back to her and help her retire without any money worries. My parents have alway taught me the importance of saving and spending my money properly. They also taught me to always believe and stay true to yourself. And most importantly be kind to people.

Nelah: As a female entrepreneur, what are some of the challenges you have faced? Do you think it has something to do with gender?

Annie: As a female entrepreneur, I have always tried to use my gender to my advantage. When dealing with much older business men, they underestimate the power that I have. They don't realize the intensity and aggressiveness in this 5' frame!

Nelah: Are you a low-risk taker or a high- risk taker? Are you the kind of person who takes all the time to do researches before doing anything or take a risk and go with it? it?

Annie: I consider myself a pretty conservative person in general. Although in business, I do take a lot of risks and for the most part, it has paid off for me. I can make quicker decisions for my business than I can in my personal life. In my personal life, I take much more time to research before doing anything or making purchases.

Nelah: How do you cope with failures? How to pick yourself up and motivate yourself to move on?

Annie: Failures are always a part of life and has been a big part of my success today. Without failures, there is no success. I always stay positive and I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason.

Nelah: I find that most business owners burying their heads in their business all the time. How do you balance a work life and a personal life?

Annie: This is something that I have always struggled with. Being your own boss definitely has its perks but also its downfalls. One of them being that if you don't work, you don't make money. Fortunately I have amazing people that work for me now that I am able to balance my business and my personal life. I now take weekends off and try to take at least one extravagant vacation per year. Having a balance is extremely important and my family and husband will always come first.

Nelah: What are some of your ultimate goals (life and business)? Do you have a process or anything that help you reach them? I once remember you posting about a dream board, that was a really good one.

Annie: My ultimate goals are to retire young and be financially free. I always have a vision/dream board and write out all my buiness and personal goals. When I was in high school, I wrote myself a check for a very substantial amount and several years later, I was able to cash it. The secret to my success is believing in yourself and working hard. No matter what, being healthy and happy is truly what matters.

Nelah: What are some of the suggestions you have for your best friend who wants to start up her business (large or small scale)?

Annie: My only suggestion is to love what you do. If you don't truly have a passion for whatever business you choose to start, your heart won't truly be in it. When you love what you do, it's no longer work.

Nelah: What suggestions do you have for fresh out students who recently graduated from college and are unsure as what to do with their career choices? How to find their passions?

Annie: If you are unsure about your career choice, don't settle. Find something you love and get excited about. Once you do that, everything will fall into place.

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That is another side of Annie that I got to know. I have always admired her strenghts as a person and a business woman, she is one tough cookie. If you haven't followed her blog already, head over and visit her at ReallyPetite. Aside from her dainty and feminine style, Annie also has a beautiful collection of Chanel bags and Louboutins shoes. I saw the Loubies for first time in life on her blog as well as a Chanel flap.

Funny thing, some people assume that bloggers have nothing better to do rather than getting dress and flaunting in front of a camera like camwh*res / waiting for money to fall from the sky and shopping all the time. Hello...we work, we save, we pay bills and we pampers ourselves at times. Well heck, if shopping is what they do, it is their rights and their money. I do not know Annie in person and we strictly communicate via commenting on each other's blog. I am amazed at how harsh people can be behind computer screen. In case of Annie, she get slammed with harsh words almost constantly by people who wear anonymous masks. I am in awe.

We all have real lives, we all deal with stress / struggles / sadness / fear / failures and 100 ohter things just like everybody on this planet earth. Blogsphere is like a little corner where we all can be free, be whoever we want to be, use our energy to create something we love, share our passion or simply just vent. Let Blogsphere be an inviting place where we create friendship, share and care. Thanks Annie for being here today and be a strong and kind lady that you are.

An outfit post will resume tomorrow~**

New Handmade Bling~*

2011-11-30T08:18:00.000-08:00

Accessories make an outfit is a true statement. Whether a tiny piece or a statement piece, they all make a difference. Some of you may see a brief appearance of this duo in Tutu Vintage Dress. This necklace and bracelet set is my latest homemade collection to my Design {by} Nelah Etsy Shop, they are a combination silver/pink-ish chunky chain and faux pearl beads with gold accents. I am hoping to add them to my Etsy shop in December.

In case you do not know, my jewelry is made to fit which means I customize the lenght of necklaces and bracelets. I personally have small wrists (5 1/2 to be exact) so you can imagine my frustration with standard sized bracelets on the market. Now I make my own, problem solved! Each design also comes in very limited amounts (mostly 1-2 pieces). By the way, handbag is not for sale :D From the first pic it may look like I was showcasing a handbag but I though my outfit and jewelry match the Chanel theme so I threw it in a picture. Hey, feel free to give me a quote because this Metallic Lambskin Chanel Mini was discontinued earlier this year and its color was seasonal. If I were to sell this baby, I wanted to make a big fat money out of it!! That's how greedy I am..haha.

Wrapping in Luxury~*

2011-11-29T06:21:00.000-08:00

Here is my second take on this bold and vibrant Hermes scarf after the first one I did ages ago {here} - take lll will follow in the next post . A final result turns out quite preppy and playful with the burst of bright colors and a mix of different textures from faux leather, lace, cotton fabric to silk.

For this particular look, my main inspiration came straight from Hermes - the king of (super, top of the line) fine leather and craftmanship. Thus I decided to mix leather with leather (skirt, belt and boots - even though mine are faux leather but they work). Earlier this season before I jumped on this pair of black boots at Kohl's, I was literally drooling over a pair of Hermes boots. If only I had a money tree, I would not mind shelling out $2,000++ on a pair of fine leather boots from there. Since I didn't have such tree, so between $2,000++ and $50 something. Which one won? You bet - a pair of boots from Kohl's was such a steal!! I still wonder though if H boots are comfortable, I would be too afraid to give it a try because I may not want to take them off!!!

White cardigan: Charlotte Russe (old)Scarf: Hermes Carre 90 Grand Manege in Fushia/Salmon (bought earlier this year)Belt & Faux leather skirt: Forever 21Boots: Craft & Barrow Boots from Kohl's

Red Lipped Rocker Chic~*

2011-11-28T09:22:00.000-08:00

You know I have been obsessed with red for quite sometimes now but one trend that I am sort of hesitant is a red lips trend. Most days, you will spot me with pale lips with only vaseline coated on top and that is it. However this weekend I felt sassy and thought red lipstick would compliment this outfit. Without further ado, I whipped out a Revlon lipstick which I bought ages ago but never used and glided it on. The result, love it!

Be prepared for more bold and fun colored outfits to come this week. Can you handle it??

My Memories & Giveaway Time!!

2011-11-27T19:25:00.000-08:00

Documenting and keeping precious moments mean so much to many of us because we can't freeze those moments in time. Photography has become a huge part of what I do since the birth of my child and this blog. By adding special effects, wording or even interactive materials video and music make photography even more fun! Digital scrapbooking is simply awesome and addictive. I have to admit, I was not into scrapbooking at all before I had a child. Now I find it to be such an entertaining hobby, you add photos here and decorate it the way your heart desires, be creative with it and get lost in time.

Recently I had been contacted by My Memories if I would be interested in testing out their "My Memories Suite" which is a digital scrapbooking software and rated #1 by Amazon and Top Ten Reviews (I can't guarantee on this statement because I haven't used that many softwares to be able to compare). So far, I am impressed and have had so much fun with it. Below are some of my masterpieces which I created from blank page (first three) and last one I used a designer template but tweaked colors/photos/wordings and elements.

{I found my feet!!}
{My other babies}

Pros:
+Reasonable price point ($39.97). Anything under $50 for a software is good for me
+Fast download - you buy and download instantly (see PC/system requirements). No need to wait for shipment to arrive
+Easy to follow instructions you can even do this without reading instructions because its control panel is easy to navigate - no brainer
+You can create many different effects (sepia, black/white/red/blur/sharpen, crop photos, edit fonts and more) without any use or knowledge of Photoshop. A technically challenged person can definitely figure out how to use this software and have a blast with it.
+Scrapbooking kits are available online for purchase in case you are looking for something very specific and cute. Options are endless, you can easily get carried away and spend hours and hours doing this (can this be a con??)+There are so many ways to share your work of art with just a click of button.

{Above is a screenshot of control panel}

Cons:
-With over 1,500 papers, over 1,000 page elements, and over 30 album templates: even though the software comes with the above and provide you with the necessities to get you up and running, I just wish page elements came with more cuter designs (okay I can be cheap just like that and want all I can get for every penny spent..lol).

-I wish the software could auto save every now and then in case my computer goes wacky. I am not the kind of person who saves my work as I go which is not a good thing.

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Now the most anticipating and exciting part of the post - GIVEAWAY!! My Memories is generously offering My Memories Suite3 to one lucky reader. This giveaway is open internationally to everyone out there and ends on 12/9/2011. A winner will be randomly selected and a code to download this software will be emailed to the winner. {In case you do not win, you may use this code STMMMS2407 to get $10 discount towards a software, plus $10 coupon to purchase extra digital scrapbooking kits.}
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Disclaimer: This software was provided by My Memories for review purpose (one for me to review and another one for my reader for personal use). My opinions are of my own and I reserve the rights to express both pros and cons of the product. I earn a certain percentage when someone uses a discount code above to purcahse My Memories Suite software.

Tutu Vintage Dress~*

2011-11-24T20:06:00.001-08:00

Tutu Vintage dress from an Etsy seller is here!!! Actually it arrived just in time for me to wear it on the Turkey day. I am simply stuffed with so much heavenly delicious food and there are still plenty of leftover to savour in the next few days. Back to the dress, I did a quick review here for you (just scroll down to the bottom) in case you have been eyeing it since my previous post {here}from this seller .

Design: 5 out of 5, one word "gorgeous". In real life it is a pretty dress with a mix of vintage look, dreamy feel and is loaded with girly girl factors
Quality and materials: 3 of out 5. I really wish a fabric was not this sheer and thin. Even though the dress is fully lined, the fabric that is used underneath is super thin. There is no way I can wear this without adding a tank top and a pair of black tights underneath. I would say its quality is in line with Forever21. For $39 and the fact that labor and materials in Thailand are much cheaper, I hope for a better quality as far as choice of fabric.
Fitting: 5 out of 5, it advertises as "free size" but will fit "XS/S". It fits decently and waist can be adjusted. Neckline and armholes are not too wide/low.

Disclaimer: I am not affiliated with this shop owner in anyway. The dress was purchased with 100% of my own money.

Love: Past, Present & Future

2011-11-23T06:20:00.000-08:00

This is a final part of first love gone wrong. After months into that break-up, he still came back to haunt me while I was trying to move on and letting go of the pains. I couldn't even explain why I still had a small hope that we could get back together. The day I saw his email in my mailbox, my heart skipped a beat. Darn it, all he did was sending an updates about his girlfriend's pregnancy.

Give me a break. I ain't your best friend...I ain't an angel...I was not going to forgive...I was not going to forget. What you did to me was not something I could ever forgive. There was no need for me to listen to those craps. All I knew was that it was time for me to move on for a better life, and matured from this puppy crappy love. Surprisingly, I realized it was not a real love since we were too young, I almost made the biggrst mistake by marrying someone I didn't truly love. It was all about physical attraction and good looking that led me to think I loved him enough to marry him. The biggest part that helped me go through that time was my parents and my BFF. I soon realized no one would be there for you but your family and a true friend who endured listening to your same old shits over and over.

I am not a Christian (I am a Buddhist by birth and by soul) but this beautiful quote struck me just every time and it couldn’t be any more true.

“When God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better”

{Source}

….Something better…..Oh....MUCH better

After three on and off miserable years, another man came along. This time around I could not feel any more confident despite the fact that we lived on different continents. Once again, it was a long distance relationship….very long…much longer than Thailand and Korea in distance. This time around, it was real and mature (at least he was as far as age wise). I was 22 and he was 28 when we first met.

After two years of enduring a long distance relationship, some financial damages from several plane tickets plus some outstanding balance in his American Express credit card, I met the man who later became my one and only husband.

….Nine years and counting since that day we met…

….Two weddings with the same man (thank god!! One in Thailand and one in the US)....

….Two wedding anniversaries per year that we NEVER remember…NEVER celebrate….

….Hardships we went through together….

.....All the craps I put him through.....

.....All the craps he puts me through.....

….Seeing each other’s true colors…...

….Many heated discussions and some stupid arguments….

….Being on the edge in our marriage….

….Two hairy cats….

….One little girl we love dearly….

….Here we are today…

{Do you know that a bear and a chicken can make one adorable kitten????}

This must be one of the most personal stories I have ever shared to the world. At the end I hope my message gets crossed that there is "a better day" for everyone. It is just the matter of time. Some people may take a longer and more painful path than another to find what they are looking for.

There is someone out there for everyone. It may take months, years or even a lifetime to find him/her. They may not meant to be with you for life but only a short period of time together may be worthwhile. There are different kinds of love. Father’s love, mother’s love, pet’s love. Any kind of love is precious.

First Love Gone Wrong...very wrong~*

2011-11-22T07:17:00.000-08:00

Do you remember your first love? Was it a good one that you want to remember for the rest of your life or a bad one that you can't seem to get rid of even though you hit a delete button over and over again? Life is so full of surprises whether a good one or a bad one but I do believe each and every event in our lives happen for a reason whether we like it or not.

{source}

I didn’t experience a puppy love until 19 years old because I spent most part of my life in girl only school (yay..yay). My first relationship was a long distance one with my boyfriend living in Korea at the time (but we did meet and spend time together in real life). Let me tell you, the story is worse or as worse as most Korean drama series you have ever seen because it ended up on a very bad term. Both of us were so head over heel towards each other to the point that he even proposed to me in an elevator!! I was once again 19 years and he was 18 years old, I was in my 2nd year in university.

Long distance relationship was not easy, let alone for the fact that we were still too young and not up to the challenge. You bet. We broke up (darn it - he took a ring back!, I could have sold and made money out of it to compensate my emotional damage).

What..what? Do you want to her a reason for this break-up? Okay..okay nosy people..don’t get too excited now. We broke up in a chat program, extremely technical.

{Source}

Reason number one: he met another woman who was 5 years older than him. Reason number two: he wanted to marry her and….

Reason number three: this one almost made me throw up in blood – she was pregnant with his baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hell yessssssss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My world turned upside down, went round and round, bounced to the left and the right. I closed a chat window and I looked like I had just lost my soul – I looked totally blank. You bet, from there the hell broke through. I spent nearly every night crying my eyes out, cursing him and that woman (even thought it was probably not her fault because she may not even know). I even wanted something to go wrong with her pregnancy. It was the very first time in life that I experienced a betrayal and a sudden loss of love. It was purely miserable for a very long period of time but luckily I was able to pull through and graduated with 3.00+ GPA within 3 ½ years. My heart was still broken in tiny pieces and completely lost trust in every man. Completely overrated!!

I later became to realize that we broke up for a reason. Someone up above saw that there was someone else out there for me. Someone who was really meant to be my true love.

{Part two is coming up, hopefully tomorrow}

Recipe for Skin~*

2011-11-20T19:49:00.001-08:00

Somehow, my skin manages to break out more during wintertime which is not a good time given that weather is extra dry. There is one holygrail recipe which I can always rely on to help calm my skin (and my nerve/stress/anxiety) and it seems to work just about everytime.

After all these thirty two years on this planet earth experimenting with all kind of facial masks and such, what a surprise to find these amazing gems in my home...in my kitchen. Talking about "natural", nothing can get more natural then these trio.

Plain Yogurt

You do not necessarily have to choose greek yogurt. Any "plain" yogurt (non fat/low fat) would work but I happen to like the greek counterpart because of its extra thick consistency (equals less mess as far as dripping all over the place). I personally eat this brand so I just scoop a few tablespoon full and use it on my face as well. Why not? I love that feeling of applying cool yogurt on my skin, it feels so good especially during summer. Thjese are some benefits of yogurt for your skin: Reduce bacteria, moisturize skin and sooth sunburn.

Precautions (from ehow.com)

Some people experience a slight tingling with the application of yogurt to the skin. If, however, you feel burning, stinging or pain of any kind, immediately wash off the yogurt. You may be sensitive to the active cultures or lactic acid present in the natural product.Remember, if you have dairy or alpha and beta hydroxy-acid allergies, you should not use yogurt for skin care. ****************************

Olive Oil

Call me an Olive Oil Freak, if I could bath in it I probably would! I use olive oil a lot on a daily basis. I use olive oil to remove my makeup (not eye makeup though) and substitute it with butter (you will be surprised how much clean/fresh flavor it addes to your food). Extra virgin olive oil is the preferred grade for moisturizing the skin, has been known for generations not only for its healing qualities but also as a natural, deep penetration moisturizer, regenerating skin cells and softening the tissue. Surprisingly, it doesn't clog my pores (not sure about yours). *****************************

Honey

No wonder why Winnie the Pooh loves honey. It is yummy for tummy and skin. Honey is a great natural moisturizer for dry and parched skin. It is able to attract and retain moisture, and rebuild the moisture level in the skin without making it oily. Honey provides a calming effect without irritating the skin, and helps replenish necessary skin moisture, especially during the winter months. (read more from www.benefits-of-honey.com) ************************

My recipe:

2 tbs Plain Yogurt + 1 tsp Olive Oil + 1 tsp Honey

Mix well, apply to your face and leave it on for 30 minutes. Use soft washcloth and lukewarm water to gently remove this yogurt mask, rinse your face with more warm water and finish with cold water.

Side notes: natural ingredents may sound like they may not irritate your skin but some do. Experiment and find what works best for your skin.

Soaking up the sun~*

2011-11-18T06:39:00.000-08:00

Mr. Sun, give me plenty of sunshine. One thing I love about living where I am is for the fact that there is almost always plenty of sunshine in the winter. Can't imagine living in a place where it is rainy, wet and cold everyday, that gotta be depressing.

Last weekend, our family of three went to a park in Downtown. We rode a train, watched birds and ducks and chased some chubby squirrels around the park. Quite funny to say, a park was not my kind of place to go before I has a child. I found myself at the mall or places alike 99.99%. Having a child makes (or forces) you to go and discover places you once didn't even know its existence and make you do things you never thought ypu would do. Hello, welcome to the world of parenthood (whether you like it or not).

On another note, please excuse my lack of comment on your blog and a daily post. I am simply lazy, yours truly. Gotta blame a lazy bug!!!!

Next week, I will be sharing (or embarrassing) myself with a corny story of my first love "GONE WRONG" which is as worse or more than soap opera you have seen. Stay tuned you "nosy" people and stalkers, you all are nosy alright. Everytime I post something like this, my pageview stat goes skyrocketed. That simply proves how nosy and curious you girls and guys really are.

My secrets are out!!

2011-11-15T20:09:00.001-08:00

It has been awhile since I did a random facts post, ahem..do I still have any secrets to spill? I do..I do!!

1) I am a petite. Standing at almost..yes almost 5'2" and weighting in at 97 lbs.

2) Oh my god, I hate talking about my age but heck 30 is fabulousssss! I am 32. Hell...yes!!! How OLD did you think I really was!?!?!

3) My dream car is a Mercedes S class in black, that is why it still is a dream...duh!

4) I don't like olives in my pizza, don't you dare putting any in mine!!

5) I gave birth naturally, no pain medication or whatsoever. Not that I was brave, but my daughter wanted to come out FAST (you can read this post in my very old entries).

6) One of my favorite reads is www.frugaldad.com even though I am so far away from having a frugal lifestyle

7) I often go to bed around mindnight and act like a zombie during the day
8) I may look so sweet and freindly but I can be such a demanding bitch
9) I seldomly drink soda beverages
10) My favorite nut is walnut

Feminine, but Edgy~*

2011-11-14T18:13:00.000-08:00

{Blouse and Skirt: Forever21 l Boots: Steve Madden - Candence in Cognac color}

Have you ever thought about paring lace with leather? You may remember this Chanel-esque lace top which I bought from Forever21 a few months ago and I styled it two different ways with skirts. The moment I saw it, I knew a leather skirt would bring this faminine and ladylike piece to a new level. It is like luxury meets casualty and edgy, very playful and fun. I am in love with this combination of textures.

A Warm Break~*

2011-11-13T18:32:00.000-08:00

Warm, cold, warm then cold. I am talking about the weather where I live. One day it is very warm, the next day it can be quite cold. So hard to predict!! I hate the fact that I have to check www.weather.com on a daily basis to figure out what to dress. Just like the day I wore this outfit. It turned out that a coat was absolutely not necessary because there was plenty of sunshine and warmth. I stood there and soaked up all the viatmin D that I so lacked of!! It sure felt good as long as it didn't give me extra sunspot, I am fine with that.

I had a great long three day weekend and couldn't complain except that I spent one whole day on Saturday cleaning. How fabulous? That is just part of life when there is no merry maid to lend out that extra pair of hands. Perhaps Santa would bring me one this year!?!?

Nelah's Etsy Love: Tutu Vintage Dress

2011-11-10T18:32:00.001-08:00

First of all, thank you..thank you and thank you to those of you who were so very kind to leave me comments and think of my family during this challenging time of flood in my motherland. Your words have such healing power to me during this stressful period. Thank you again from the bottom of my heart <3

{Images from Amordress@Etsy}

Starting this week, Nelah will be featuring her favorite finds from Etsy to you in “Nelah’s Etsy Love”. With holiday and the gift giving season approaching and to put you in a joyful / cheerful spirit of giving, I hope you enjoy the drool worthy unique handmade items from talented artists of Etsyland. Would it be crazy if I say that my part time favorite activity is “browsing Etsy” – boy..oh..boy it is SO freakin’ addictive!! Whoever introduced me to that site a few years back sure deserves some punishment and love!!

I am so very excited to show you a sneak peak of my recent find on Etsy. This is the very first time I bought a dress from there and the most exciting part is that the seller is from Bangkok, Thailand. (Luckity, flood water hasn't reached her area so she can still ship this out) You have no idea how thrilled I was when I saw this dress, it was almost like love at first sight. This little tutu dress is a great mix of vintage feel, classic look, sophistication and femininity which is so my cup of tea in every way. Plus, people in Thailand sure need some financial boost during this difficult and challenging time. Just can’t wait to get it! I have already planned what I am going to wear with it. Right now all I can is singing a waiting song. Just wait until I feature my next Etsy Love, you will be sure to LOVE it too.

Disclaimer: I am not affiliated with the shop owner in anyway. I came across this shop while browsing randomly. I purchased this dress with my own money.

Drowning in fear and worries~*

2011-11-09T08:02:00.000-08:00

My stress level continues to rise as the flood water level in Bangkok keeps rising by day and night. Being half way around the world away does not help in this situation when I just can’t seem to unwrap my head around the news and updates of flood seeping through most part of the country and recently into my parents’ house on the west side of Bangkok. I find myself to be under a lot of stress and worries when flood started invading the capital of Thailand and my parents’ house earlier last week. Please excuse my lack of response to your emails if you sent me something recently.

{All photos are from www.bangkokpost.com}

Street in front of my parents' house is full of water and about waist-deep (knee high inside the house), not to mention the main road which is now closed and only Military vehicles and boats can access. Most people in that area evacuated but some decided to stay to protect their homes and properties from thieves, my parents are ones of them. Luckily they were able to gather a stockpile of drinking water and food to last a month before flood hit. They and my youngest brother now have to live on the second floor because their first floor is full of water. The fear of unknown is driving everybody crazy and it sure does have a major impact on their psychological health (including mine at the moment). When will water crest? They don’t know. How high it is going to get? They don’t know. How long it is going to last? They don’t know. How much damage do they have? They don’t know. I just can’t imagine having to stay in a confined area for 2 days myself!!! They pretty much have to accept the fact and learn to live with the water for at least ONE MONTH!!!! No kidding!!!

Water is so filthy and polluted because it had washed away everything and anything you can imagine from the northern part of the country in the past three months. Extremely devastating!! I feel a severe sense of helplessness. All I can do is making phone calls twice a day to check on them and talk their mind out of flood. Banks and ATM machines are closed. Can't do any crap. A road to discovery is a long way ahead for everyone. I feel so badly for those especially the poor and the unfortunate who were even struggled before the flood. Now they lose everything...EVERYTHING...hope and dream, and even loved ones. How are they going to get back on their feet? Is the world really going to end in 2012 with all these ongoing crazy natural disasters? I just can’t help thinking about that, seriously. My whole month of November will probably focus on flood situation, it sure has taken away the joy and excitement of Christmas and such.

At least these Flood Fashion photos brought a little smile to my face today and I thought I would share them with you.

Last but not least, BIG THANKS to my two lovely ladies who are so incredibly kind to mention me in their blog and help spread the word of my tiny Etsy store. I am just speechless. Their act of kindness came just in time when I needed some "lift me up". Thank you ladies :)

Kim of SassyUpTownChic: Support other bloggers and Blog Awards

Peh Sun of Squeeze the Pug: Chanel Collection Tribute

To end the flood water updates, I though I embedded this video to see flood water in action.

Chanel goodies from Europe~*

2011-11-08T19:13:00.000-08:00

Chanel..Chanel..oh Chanel. I happen to be one of those who got bitten by a highly contagious Chanel bug this year. Chanel does not only make classic handbags, ready-to-wear garments and other leather goods but they know something about skincare products. YES THEY DO!! All these times, I must have been underestimated Chanel in their skincare department. What an insult!!

I just had never thought of venturing into their makeup or skincare counter to experience the goodness. Often, those crazy expensive handbags are so expensive that they simply mesmerize me and make my legs weak so I never make it to their skincare counter. I tried countless brands from affordable ones at my neighborhood American most favorite drugstore like Walgreen to those high end brands like Dior and the famous La Mer, still no Chanel. Why..why…why? To my surprise, I have not seen or heard much about Chanel skincare line as much as their makeup line (especially the foundation, lipstick and nail polish). Folks, sorry to disappoint you. This is not a review of a Chanel handbag since I already max out my purse fund this year (sigh!!)

Heaven up above was kind enough to send my sweet and thoughtful Peh Sun of Squeeze the Pug to the rescue mission. After quietly observing and stalking my search for that perfect moisturizer, she thought it was about time for me to experience it for myself. She previously mentioned this line but how could I not believe a Chanel expert like her!?!? I guess I was sort of fed up that my 2nd jar of Crème de la Mer lost its magic touch to the point that I didn’t want to believe anything. Thus I gave up and used my baby girl’s lotion ever since. Cheaper and effective alternative!

{Yeah baby, I live in the land of Texas..Heehah!!}

About a month ago, a package from Europe arrived at my door and I couldn’t be more excited. First and foremost, I knew she was sending something but I had no clue what it could be. A bomb? A Chanel bag? Two Chanel bags? Close enough, she sent me some Chanel goodies to try out. How thoughtful is Peh Sun?!?!? If you have been reading my blog, you may be familiar with Peh Sun’s name by now because I only mention her name a few hundred times ever since I found her. Just can't help it because we develop a one of a kind friendship. I am about to reveal one of the talents that most people do not know about, very impressive I must say. She is not only good at cutting human’s bodies opened, but her artistic side simply blows me awaaaay. Just look at this handmade card, isn’t it lovely??? She should be an artist in her free time (if she even has any free time).

The goodies she sent were a mix of Hydramax line ranging from Active Moisture Bootst Serum to Nourishing Cream. Each type has different texture, thickness and consistency but they all smell heavenly and pleasantly. My new love is "HYDRAMAX + ACTIVE SÉRUM - ACTIVE MOISTURE BOOST"

{Image from Chanel Official Website}
Product description from Chanel: An ultra-hydrating serum for dry or very dry skin goes to the source of skin's hydration needs.. At the heart of the formula: CERATONIA PFA* powerfully stimulates hydration; a Hydrabarrier System™ locks it in, resulting in healthy-looking, smooth, supple skin. Enriched with Aquaperfyl™, a complex of moisture-boosting components, this silky serum sinks in on contact for immediate dry-skin relief.

*PFA: Polyfractioned Active. An ultra-pure, ultra-powerful ingredient created through an exclusive purification technique developed by CHANEL.

My opinion: despite being a serum, this product does amazingly well in delivering moisture to dehydrated and dull skin. It is refreshing, absorbs incredibly fast and my skin feels and looks plumped. At first this product reminds me so much of Dior Hydra Life Energizer but Chanel version does a better job as far as providing much needed moisture yet doesn't leave that sticky feeling after application. It is a perfect serum to use all year round especially summer. Once the weather gets drier, I may need a cream version which is thicker and more concentrated. Overall, LOVE!! I am going to order some in full size.

At $82, it is still exepnsive but it is Chanel. What do you expect, right? It is still cheaper than Creme de la Mer which is $130 a pop for the smallest jar or Dior Capture Totale line which is also $100+. You may want to refer to my old reviews on La Mer and Dior Capture Totale if you happen to have a similar skin type as mine.

Discliamer: these products were sent to me for personal use by a friend who is not assoicated with Chanel company. It is simply an act of sharing beauty products between friends. Thank YOU, Peh Sun for sharing the Chanel goodness!

Oooooops!!!!!!!!!!

2011-11-06T18:37:00.000-08:00

Will this mama be charged for child endangerment??!?!?

You Are So Darn Annoying~*

2011-11-04T07:38:00.000-07:00

The most anticipating topic some of you have been dying to read is finally here, folks. The "Annoying People of Blogsphere". Be sure to add and give me your two or three cents in the comment section, I can't wait to see what you have to share.

1) Anonymous or "Annoy- mous": there are two kind of anonymous from my observation. First group goes to those who give out sincere comments but do not wish to reveal their identity which is absolutely fine. Second group, bad...bad anonymous. These people are such losers that they hind behind the screen and use anonymous status to verbally attack or sabotize other bloggers they personally hate. That is such a hate crime!! I have yet to come across any in my blogging experience but from what I see on other blogs, these annoy-mous are purely and utterly disgusting. Why don't you confront with your identity?!

2) People who hate: there are this kind of people everywhere whether in real life or on the net. It is a viral disease. You know there are times when I don't agree on what other bloggers say or do, or if I don't' like this certain blogger I just stop visiting their blogs and don't say a thing. Don't let that feeling of hate and jealousy eat you up PEOPLE! There is so much more to do in YOUR OWN life than creating negativity around yourself. If the girl owns a Chanel or a Birkin bag and you do not have one, do not call her as a rich whore. People are not born equally but we can make a choice in life. Use that blogger as your inspiration, work hard and save. If her blog is more successful than yours, work hard on yours. Don't whine..don't say you can't do it..don't blame the world for not giving your blog a shit. Read Collette's tips below and you can bring your blog to the internet highway. If that blogger is more beautiful than yours, remember you are unique and you are beautiful in your own way. Take the time to discover your beauty, bring that out and shine. Stop the internet hate crime and bullying NOW!!

3) Follow me..and I will follow you: DAAAAMN IT!..just follow me, okay?! Good grief!! You are really annoying.

4) Follow me today, stop following me tomorrow: well I have to be honest on this one. I do this one on occasion. To me, I don't follow every single blog I come across but when I do follow someone I usually take the time to comment because I want to connect with them. I usually wait a week, if they don't visit my blog then I stop following because I feel that they don't want to connect with me. However, I do have a lot of people on my own blog. Somedays I gain 2 followers, the next day I lose 5. I normally take the time to reply to every commenter by visiting their blogs (if they leave me comment). So I don't know what's going on, it can be frustrating and discouraging. If you are not "genuinely" interested in my blog, please don't follow me to begin with. I want to connect with people who are as excited to know me as I am excited to know them. Don't follow me just to because.

5) One word commenter:"nice", "gorgeous", "beautiful!","great outfit!". Most likely, these commenters don't even read the damn post. They just comment and leave their blog URL. You know I don't mind at all when fellow bloggers leave their blog URLs at the end of their comment but be a bit more sincre and courteous to a blog owner. If you leave such short word like that, chances are "I don't even want to click your url to visit your damn blog!" It is all about "content", PEOPLE!! When you leave thoughtful comment, a blog owner or readers are interested in what you have to say about the topic and want to know you more. That's how I "select" people to follow that way.

6) Comment for the sake of commenting: have you come across someone who always say "the nicest thing all the time even when it is not necessary" that you feel a bit ridiculous? One time my fellow blogger "Kim of Sassy Up Town Chic" said, these peole will say "beautiful" even when you put a chicken on your head. JUST ridiculous.

7) USE ALL CAPS TO COMMENT FROM THE BEGINNING TIL THE END OF SENTENCE: what the heck is that for? To get some sort of attention? Man, people just do whatever it take. We all want attention but lord please do with class and grace.

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Okay ladies, now it is your turn to tell me what kind of people in Blogsphere bug the crap out of you :)

Welcome "Collette of Statements in Fashion"~**

2011-11-02T08:14:00.000-07:00

Today I have a great pleasure to formally share and introduce a long time, sweet and a very supportive bloggy friend of mine "Collete of Statements in Fashion" with you all. It has been ages since my last guest. Drum roll please~~~* I must have known Collette for about a year now ever since I joined Blogsphere in June 2010. Collete is a real sweetheart as a blogger as a person, she also is one of the very successful bloggers in the blogphere whom you will not want to miss. She has a serious sense of style, a beautiful heart and a friendly smile you can easily fall in love with. It was a pleasure to have an opportunity to interview her and ask her some "hot" topics about "life around the blog, the success and what it takes to get there". If you previously read my post on "bloggin blues", this guest post may help clear a lot of questions on your mind. Whenever you are finished reading, head over to her blog sweet blog and give her a visit at www.statementsinfashion.net :)

Hello Friends of Nelah! My name is Collette Osuna, and I am the owner of Statements in Fashion blog. I am a soon to be 43 year old Mom of two fabulous kiddos, an Event Coordinator by day, and a funky blogging fashionista by night.
I am a proud Editor of Independent Fashion Bloggers Links ala Mode (IFB) and have just been offered a writing position at Chic Galleria Publications…….wayyy cool!

{Beautiful and fabulous Collette - I literally grasped for 10 seconds the first time I knew her age. She does looks like someone in 20's!!! I NEED her beauty secrets ASAP!!}

Nelah: How did you discover blogging?
Collette:I've been a freelance writer for many years, and decided to change directions in August of 2010, and focus more on the fashion industry. I've always had a love of fashion from an early age, and decided to follow my passion.
I started my blog as a creative outlet for my freelance writing, as well to show women that style recognizes "no age".

Nelah: Do you have any bloggers who are your inspirations?
Collette:Like most bloggers, I visit many different blogs and can’t even begin to list all of my favorites. Right off the top of my head I’d have to say The Glamourai Grit & Glamour Keiko Lynn Cupcakes & Cashmere. In addition to fashion blogs, I stop by many home décor and vegetarian recipe sites too. How fun!

Nelah: How do you feel about blogsphere overall?
Collette: Overall, I think the blogosphere is a very friendly and warm place to be. I have been fortunate to have met so many wonderful people through my blog, as well as work with really great companies and sponsors. It’s when things turn into a competition that it can get ugly. I stay away from negativity and keep doing what I do in my little part of “blogland”.

Nelah: To you, how important is it to define a blog direction / goal?
Collette: Depending on the vision you have for your blog, I think a direction is very important. If you have a personal blog just for family and friends, a blog direction wouldn’t be necessary. If you are planning to engage a certain group of readers, a direction would definitely help your blogs success in working with companies/sponsors. Focusing on a few topics keeps your readers engaged in your specific blog content.

Nelah: What did it take for you to discover your blog's identity and how to stay true to it?
Collette: The answer to this one is very simple for me. I’ve always been true to myself regardless of what other bloggers were doing. My blogs main focus is fashion, but I also post about recipes I love, things I’m doing in the industry, as well as personal stories that I like to share with my readers. To me, it’s these types of posts that allow your readers to get to know the real you, the person behind the blog.

Nelah: What are some of the challenges you have experienced in the past that give you valuable lessons?
Collette:I wouldn’t necessarily say valuable lessons, but I have learned to say the word “no”. I’m a people pleaser and that’s a hard thing for me to do. I can easily spread myself too thin and have learned to take a step back and not over commit myself. I’d rather rock at a few things, than suck at many things.

Nelah: How do you go about approaching more audiences and stay connected with them?
Collette: I’m a firm believer in “content is key”. Write about interesting things your readers want to read, and they will keep coming back. Write about something that wouldn’t interest your dog, and your blog will be a quick detour on the internet highway....a road they will never return to.

You want someone to visit your site and say “wow! I didn’t know that” or “this is such great information, I just have to tell everyone I know”.

I love, love, love my readers!! The best way for me to stay in touch with them is to reply to the comments they leave on my posts. I use Disqus as my comment manager and it totally rocks! You can see all comments from one screen and answer back easily. It’s like a never ending conversation…it’s great!

Nelah: To me, blogging is almost like a fulltime or part time job. How much time do you spend on your blog per day? How do you balance your time and make sure blogging will not interfere your time outside the blog?
Collette: This is where I think some people get into trouble. Kind of like when video games first came out. You couldn’t pry someone away from the television to save your life! It’s easy to get addicted to blogging, commenting, posting photos, etc, but you HAVE to have some kind of balance and know when to call it quits for the day.
If little Johnny is running around in a dirty diaper for the past two hours because you have been blogging, call me, you need an intervention.

I’d say I roughly spend about twenty hours a week on my blog. My best time management tip would have to be to stay ahead of the game. I treat my blog as a magazine. I create an editorial calendar of what I want to post, outfits, features etc. and assign it a date. I plan things out as much as possible.

Nelah: What are some of the "no-no" in your blogging ethic book?
Collette: Yikes! I have a few, in no particular order. These are my personal no-no’s or pet peeves….don’t judge me lol.

Word Verification…..for the love of God, turn it off people. If a reader has to jump through hoops to leave a comment, chances are they won’t be back. I understand we all get a little bit of spam, but I have never had an issue with it. Check your posts every couple of days, summon Mr. Clean, and just delete it.

Music…… there’s nothing more annoying to me, well besides a raincheck, than opening a blog and having music blasting at me. Your love of a certain song or group may not necessarily be the love of your readers. Many readers are visiting your site while at work on the “QT”.
Willie Nelson blaring out of their speakers at a volume of 10? Not a pretty situation!

Follow Me…I’ll Follow You……. Blog Pimping….Not cool. If you leave a sincere comment, the blog owner will be able to click on your profile and visit your blog. If they have a true love of your site and what you have to say, they will follow you on their own.
It’s not about numbers. Wouldn’t you rather have fewer followers who really read what you have to say, than many who could care less?

Comment Courtesy…… be a sincere commenter and show the blog owner that you have taken the time to read what they wrote.
Good comment: Love the outfit…..the colors in the belt really make the outfit pop. I would have never thought to pair those two together!
Bad Comment……..nice outfit.

Nelah: What are some of the disadvantages/risks when a blogger turns her personal blog to a different direction ,such as, doing product reviews (with items being provided by sponsors) / allowing third parties to advertise on their blogs. Do you feel that they risk losing some readers/trust?
Collette:My best advice is once again, stay true to yourself and to your blog. Do not endorse a company or product you truly do not love or believe in, or one that is the total opposite of your blog direction. Let’s face it, most people are pretty intelligent. They can see a phoney sales pitch a mile away.
My take on this…..if you wouldn’t buy it or wear it yourself, chances are your readers won’t either. If your blogs focus is on interior design and all of the sudden you are pushing dog food down your readers throats, they are going to see you as a car salesman.
I only work with companies/sponsors who have great products, great customer service and who are outstanding in the industry.

Nelah: Last but not least, any additional suggestion for fellow bloggers?
Collette: Take your time finding your blogging voice and niche. It's not a race for comments or followers. Get your feet wet by visiting blogs that interest you, asking questions, and making new friends along the way. You are unique, and your readers will appreciate that.

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So that is Collette, I hope you have enjoyed getting to know her through this guest post. I couldn't help but nodded in agreement with her answers. Is not she the greatest..the sweetest for being so generous with these tips and information? Seriously, how many successful bloggers are willing to share such things? Not many in my experience. They don't even give a damn to a teeny tiny blog like mine. In my blogging experiece, I am very blessed to be surrounded by a small group of supportive and geniune ladies and I dare to say Collette is one of them. Thanks again Collette ~**

Hey "Etsy"...Here I Come!!

2011-11-01T08:29:00.000-07:00

**I offer to customize the lenght of your necklace and bracelet to fit just the way you want.**
{Simply click on a banner to visit my shop or www.etsy.com/shop/ByNelah}

What a year! This year I made some new adventures to YouTube arena with my 30 second of (no) fame for my first YouTube video (some of you may not have seen it and go "did she even make one?!?!") and my latest venture on Etsy. After months and weeks in (procrasinating...cough...cough) sweating and thinking whether I should pull the triggler or not, desiging jewelry, perfecting my designs, studying Etsy's seller booket, drafting policies, setting prices and hundred other things...my very first and formal Etsy shop: "{Designs} by Nelah" was FINALLY born! (Thank god!!) **Details on special discount is at the bottom**

I know some of you probably thought I gave up on this thing (me too..duh!). This is more of a personal achievement and I just couldn't be more excited. Have no idea where it is going to go or it may not go anywhere, we shall see. What matters most is the fact that I made it happen, I turned my passion and dream into reality.

In a celebration of my store opening which I nervously clicked "publish" as of last night, please head over to a virtual grand opening party. Dress code is casual. Feel free to look around and grab yourself a virtual champange and some out-of- this world (virtual) homemade cupcakes. Thanks :)

....more items at my Etsy shop...

Just a quick note for my fellow readers, you will get "$5 off" your total order, just you let me know you are a 52NewDays reader and your Google username when you place your order.

My Little Ballerina Fairy~*

2011-10-31T06:58:00.001-07:00

So last night I published my post without any content. "What's up with that" some of you wonder. Well...well...well, not gonna lie to you. I had nothing to say...lol. I was hoping and praying that a phrase "A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words" would prove to be true" for me.

This weekend our family completed the last activity in our October list "Company Picnic" at a park. To my pleasant surprise, a cooler weather arrived JUST in time to spend time outdoor and all the blood suckers (mosquitoes) were completely gone. It left us with a lovely and cool weekend.

My company held a Costume Contest for kids this year. Such a great mother that I am, I hadn't bought her any Halloween outfit before this context (until yesterday..ONE DAY before Halloween we went to Target and get her a little princess dress for her first and formal trick or treat). My creativity told me to put together a few things she has already had. I think her outfit is somewhat between "a ballerina / a fairy"....Voila...a stylish Ballerina Fairy!!! She didn't win but many people stopped and complimented how cute she was. We had a blast.

Pleats and Boots~*

2011-10-30T19:43:00.000-07:00

{Dress: Zara l Belt: Forever21 l Boots: Steve Madden (Candence)}

Embracing Red & Excitment for Next Week~*

2011-10-28T07:05:00.000-07:00

{Blouse: H&M / Skirt: Forever21 / Cardigan: Charlotte Russe / Necklace: from a local boutique}

Some of you may already know that I have been into red color as if late. I want to add red accent to every outfit I wear. Am I going through a red phrase? Is there such thing?? I received this H&M red blouse as a Christmas gift from my sweet sister-in-law last year. H&M doesn't have a store here where I live, I hate them!!

On another note, there will be some EXCITING stuff going on here (no, I am not pregnant!!). You will NOT want to miss, trust me! Stay tuned :D

An "H" Call

2011-10-27T18:45:00.000-07:00

Just another day I came home from work, as soon as I stepped inside the house my husband just couldn’t wait to tell me what I got in a mail.

Husband: Looky..looky you got something from Herpes!!

Me: From Herpes? Herpes? What the heck? (My husband likes to refer to Hermes as Herpes – well kind of gross)

Husband: How in the world you are on their mailing list?

Me: Don’t you remember we went there to buy a little something teeny tiny earlier this year?

Husband: Oh, yeah I forgot. Wow babe, you are special!

Me: Give me a break (eye-rolling action), it is just a magazine. Tease me with more stuff I don’t can’t freakin’ afford.

My eyes lightened up like a Christmas tree when I saw this Barenia Alligator Birkin (poor alligator). It is like I can totally afford it. Even if I could, I would be too paranoid to carry a $xxx,xxx handbag in public with a constant fear that someone would kill me and steal a darn bag.

I adore the simplicity and understated elegance of Hermes but there are certain designs which I totally do not understand their concepts or inspirations. Perhaps, my lack of sophisticated eyes and not so vey artistic minded suppress my ability to see the abstract beauty within. Some of their stuff look totally wacky – don’t even mention the prices..good grief!

I believe that they got an inspiration from a cocoon…hmmmm....yeah

Disclaimer: these images were taken from Le Monde D'Hermes Automme-Hiver 2011

A pop of Red~*

2011-10-24T19:22:00.000-07:00

{Top: LoveMode / Shorts: from Bangkok / Belt: Forever21}

A simple key to turn a dark colored outfit into something more interesting and eye-catching is by adding a pop of bright color. With a piece of two of bright colored accessories, your outfit will be transformed. I like this simple trick, very effortlessly chic to say at least. Forever21 is my favorite place to buy cheap and colorful belts, I wish they come in more colors and varieties.

My order of makeup/skincare goodies from Sasa finally arrived last week. Can't wait to try out this most talk-about DollyWink liquid eyeliner. I know my cat is just thrilled and dying to use it. I also bought a box of My Beauty Diary masks to try due to their rave reviews, not so impressed and I broke out with small pimples on my forehead :(. Oh well. Still have 8 packs of Bulgarian White Rose mask left, I may give them away to whoever that want to try later this week.

When I fall in love {with Steve Madden's Boot}

2011-10-23T18:58:00.000-07:00

{Top and shorts: purchased from Bangkok / Boots: Steve Madden Candence Boot in Cognac}

My search for brown boots was eventually over two weeks ago. It had been 3 - 4 years ever since I bought my last pair and that was a black pair from Kohl's. For less than $70, I wore those babies to pieces..literally and got my money worth.

Boots are a must-have for fall and winter. I had always dreamt of wearing boots since I lived in a tropical country like Thailand where it never gets cold. My wish came true just when I relocated to the states.

Since my first pair was in black, I thought I wanted to have ones in brown this time. I knew exactly what I was looking for and this pair just matched all my criteria from its color, its style and price range. The best part - it is so incredibly comfortable. My feet fell in love! I didn't even know it was from Steve Madden until the sale lady went back to get me a new pair. To me, the brand doesn't matter as long as they are comfortable and I like it.

Experiencing "Blogging Blues"? & Tips to drive more traffic to your blog

2011-10-20T12:18:00.001-07:00

Do you have one of those days when you feel kind of "blah", "blurred" or "blue" with blogging?

Yessss, I do..I do!!

As much as I have had a blast blogging for the past 1 year 3 months 20 days and counting, there are times when I feel so discouraged with blogging. There are days when I don't even feel like visiting my blog or do any blog related activities. There days when I feel like all my efforts go to waste. There are days when I ask myself "what do I blog for?", "why don't I get comments?", "why only a handful of people read it?", "is it that bad?", "Do I look like a bitch who runs people away ?", "what can I do to make it better?" and so on.

When you blog for awhile, some of these questions start popping in your head like popcorn in a microwave. When I first started out with this tiny blog in the blogsphere, I could care less about who would read it. I began my journey as a confused mother who lost balances in her life hoping to find her ways to adapt to a new lifestyle and discover her long lost passions. As I continue my writing journey and pour every single ounce of my heart out to craft each and every post, I am hoping to share, to interact and I want my voice to get heard by more audiences. I am hoping to meet people who struggle with similar situations I went through, mommies who like fashion/makeup, people who love animals, people who are bold on the outside but sensitive on the inside, people who care about other people's feelings, people who love photography and so on.

Blogging shares some similarities to hobby and work. I know I enjoy blogging very much because it is a channel of my expression and thought. I could write about anything I want..anything I love and I don't have to do it under anybody's supervision. Just like hobby, you do it in your free time and you find a great joy in what you do. It can be like work if you want to grow more readership and connect with more people.

We blog for many different reasons but most of us share one common goal. You want your stories to be heard...be read..and be noticed. You want to be found. When no one find us, it can be very discouraging. You look around at this blog..that blog and that blog. You honestly don't mean to compete with anyone but just can't help compare. Fewer and fewer people come back. Followers no longer follow you. Eventually, the excitement of blogging die down and you quit.

But I don't want to quit.....

Blogging has become a part of my life that I want to carry with me for as long as I can do this..as long as I have ideas to talk about...stories to share.

I think it is important to revisit some of these questions "why do I blog?", "what am I hoping to get out of blogging?", "what are my goals?"

Having something to focus on helps tremendously, you know why you do what you do and you know where you want to be. If you strictly want to blog for fun regardless of how many people read it, then stick to your goal. If you want to blog and connect with more audiences, you have to go out and find your audiences. I think I am one of those who blog and dream that people will find my blog. In reality, it is not easy when there are thousands of blogs out there.

Below are some of the topics I came across online that you may find helpful and increase your blog traffic. One thing to remember, do not spam other people's blogs by leaving thoughtless messages like "follow me, I'll follow you", "love you blog, check mine". I personally do not appreciate that, do it with respect.

I have never been to any blogging conferences but reading some of these ideas online really help bring some new and refreshing perspective in blogging.

How to increase your blog traffic: Two simple Ways >> shared by my dear bloggy friend Collette of StatementsinFashion

{Below tips come from Problogger.net: this is an AWESOME source for people who just want to blog for fun and for money}

7 Reasons No One Reads Your Blog (Except Maybe Your Mom)

Are You Blogging Just Like Everyone Else?

Space … Silence … Solitude … [What I Need More of as a Blogger]

65 Ways to Drive Traffic to Your Blog

How to Make Any Good Blog Great

Last but not least, there are two most important elements in blogging: be who you are & blog about what you are truly passionate about because it really shows. If you do not have fun with it, you can't do it for long and readers can see that. Some of these tips are a bit too much for me like advertise your blog by setting up a yard sign, at a community center or grocery store. Pick methods that you are comfortable with, adopt and adapt to suit your liking. Stay true to yourself and be you. Good luck in your blogging journey.

Dramatic Black & White

2011-10-20T06:34:00.000-07:00

Do you like black and white photos? There are only two colors but with different lighting / contrast, each and every photo creates different moods / feelings and emotions.

Isn't that amazing how colors play a big role in our lives and how each color effect our mood? Black and white photos are mysterious and classic-looking. Colored photos are vivid, fun and vibrant.

Some black and white look dramatic, some are dreamy.

Who doesn't like some Chanel black and white boxes? I absolutely hate it!! (Yeah right)

**Next post will talk about "How to get rid of your blogging depression"~** Stay tuned :O)

Love & Strenght~*

2011-10-19T06:19:00.000-07:00

She is an average woman but she has a big heart...She has so much love to give...when she cries she hides her tears and fears, and pretend to be strong...She never gives up...

"She is a Mother".

Recently I came across a story of a female taxi driver in Bangkok who had to raise her young disabled child while on duty (this stories I read was dated back to 2009). You know she was a taxi driver so when I said she was on duty, it means she was on the road driving her cab. She had to tag long her (then a 3 year old) little disabled boy in a taxi. Her little boy had some sort of bone problems since birth so his body seemed disproportioned and could not walk normally.

As risky and dangerous as it may sound, she really couldn’t afford to find a caregiver thus a situation forced her to bring her little baby on the road with her since he was only 6 months old while working. Please don’t judge or blame her for risking her son's life by bringing him along and having him spent all day long in a vehicle. Like I said, she couldn't afford to pay a babysitter or a daycare.

In Thailand, car seats are no required by law and only certain group of population own vehicle (unlike the U.S. where almost everyone has his/her own vehicle. Vehicles are not something everyone can afford thus car seats are babies' luxurious gear) so you bet most children who ride in vehicles in Thailand are not buckled up in car seats (I know my husband was terrified when we brought our two years old with us in February and had to travel without a car seat but we all survived). In her case, she had to put her little boy in a passenger seat next to her so passengers could ride in the back.

{Images from womanstoryonline.com}

Her husband (jerk!!) left her so she had to raise her son all by herself by driving a cab (I believe she only had her mom who was quite old herself and once again there is no such enforced "child support" law in Thailand to enforce fathers to help pay for a child). From everything I could see, I can tell that she is a very loving and caring mother who would do anything for her child. To make her situation sound worse, she was suffering from SLE (Systemic lupus erythematosus (SLE): a chronic, inflammatory autoimmune disorder) which interfered her daily life activities.

This is just really sad how tough and cruel life can be for some people. I saw a brief video on Youtube showing how her day-to-day life in a cab with her son. As I watched the whole show, I could almost feel the love that this mother has for her child in every single word she said. You can also see the love in her eyes every time she looked at her son sleeping peacfully in a passenger seat. Her love was in her tender touch every time she touched that little boy. I felt that she wouldn’t give up no matter what happen.

There is also another extraordinary and very inspirational mother whom you may want to read {here}

That is mother’s love – an unconditional love

It is the kind of love that you can give up your own life just to save another precious life. It is the kind of love that you only want to give and do everything and anything.

One of the greatest things I have become to realize as a mother is....

Motherhood gives women the kind of "strength" she never thought she has – physically.and emotionally.

If you are a mother, you know that is a very true statement. A woman may suffer the loss of her husband from an affair, an accident, a sudden death or anything - but one thing she will never give up is her “strength”.

To all mothers out there including my own mother, you are strong...you are beautiful...you are extraordinary...you are loved.

Cheers.....~**

Purple Overloaded~*

2011-10-18T06:32:00.000-07:00

{Feather Earrings: Forever21 / Blouse: purchased in Bangkok}
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Purple is such a lovely and perfect color for Fall/Winter. It comes in all kind of shades ranging from light with subtle pink like lavender to deep eggplants color. In my motherland, purple represents sadness. As some people say it is a color of a widow. I am not sure where that came from, I have to do some research.

There are only two purple pieces in my closet. I would love to add more pieces in lavender and deep eggplant colors. For Barney's hardcore fans out there, I hope I don't resemble the look of purple and green dinosaur..haha.

Pretty purple flowers

A Day at the Pumpkin Patch~*

2011-10-16T20:16:00.001-07:00

What a fun-filled weekend! It was such a jam packed weekend filled with activities. Very exhausting by the end of Sunday because we were constantly on the go. Too many things to do, so little time. We started off Saturday morning by picking up a birthday cake for daddy bright and early. Then came home, surprised daddy, went to the pumpkin patch, to a restaurant for lunch, to a car dealership, to the mall and finally came home. On Sunday, it was a little less hectic yet jam packed with grocery run, playground, two birthday celebrations, a visit to a local fire station. Now I am ready for an extra day off!!

You bet, we went to the pumpkin patch for a photo shoot. The church we went to had a Fall Festival this weekend so it was very crowded with kiddies and pumpkins all over the place. There was a petting zoo (and a little deer gnawed my top, yeah...yum), a train ride, snow cones and more. Our little one could care less about pumpkins!! It was all the sight and seen that got her all excited and distraced. We couldn't really get good pictures of her with pumpkins. Maybe we will go back at a later week this month.

These two ducks are my most favorite and adorable at a petting zoo. They walked together in pair and made noise as if they were arguing at each other. So hilarious.

Thought I changed the tone of music a bit to something a bit groovy and upbeat to welcome Monday.

"เธอใช่ไหม"

Secret Garden~*

2011-10-14T06:33:00.000-07:00

Welcome to Secret Garden where is not so very secretive. Flowers are blooming in full swing. Trees are as green (and brown from drought) as they can be. Helloooo....helloooo....where is a sign of Fall????? Where are yoooooou? Actually the weather is in the mid 60F this morning , what a pleasant surprise!

Dress / Cardigan / Belt: Forever21

Sunglasses: Guess

Shoes: purchased from Bangkok

Bag: Dior Panarea (folded version)

I knew I could not go wrong buying summer dress towards the end of Summer because Fall does not approach as quick as most people want it to. I bought this dress last month when I did my once in three month cloth shopping. This dress has a potential to transition to fall, I am looking forward to paring it with brown boots or somethhing.

This weekend, I plan to take my little one to the pumpkin patch at this particular church we go every October. There will also be a petting zoo, train rides and those kiddies' fun stuff. We will have a blast snapping pictures of our little pumpkin next to the real pumpkins. I am hoping to share some photos with you next week.

*~Holding back the years: Gretchen Parlato~*

Hope you enjoy my once a day "jazz" therapy :) Have a great grand weekend and I will catch up with you on Monday :)

Harsh Reality

2011-10-13T18:54:00.000-07:00

Don't we all wish we could live in a happy world? A world full of happiness, great news, people with beautiful hearts and all the positive things one can ever imagine? - yes everyone does.

Who want to surround oneself with sad and miserable stories/lives? - no one

We tend to view other people's problems "small" because at the end of the day it is not "my" problem.

It is completely different when it is our turn to face such problems. All of sudden, we feel like our world is collasping...we have troubles so big that they weight us down to the very bottom of the earth and we can't find our way out.

We cry...we whine endlessly

....But "Is our problem really that "big" and "worth" worrying, crying, whining and depressing?"

Probably not

There are more people in this world who truly "suffer" and are facing life-death situations...every minute..every day.

We are whining about our problems (breakup, not having enough money to buy what we want, not getting enough raise, my daughter won't poo-poo in a potty, I have early signs of aging, work and other 100 different nitpicking topics).

We forget that there are people in many parts of the world who are facing and suffering "real" problems because we don't look beyond ourselves.

I am one of those who tend to get stressed over small little things too often. I get upset easily, sometimes for nothing worthwhile. I still take things/people/blessings that I have for granted.

I should NOT and you should not either.

Today I came across an article on Foxnews about a blind Sudan teen who is facing a dilemma of having to return to his country before his treatment in the U.S. is completed.

What really intrigued me to read this article was that I was wondering how he became blind. "He was captured and enslaved 15 years ago in Southern Sudan." His master punished him by rubbing chili peppers into his eyes"

....In my head, I was mentally and quickly doing the math - he is currently 18 years old so that means he was enslaved since he was only THREE YEARS OLD!!!!!!!!!

HEART-BREAK-ING into million pieces...my heart ached badly and my eyes became teary while trying to finish this article. My thoughts scattered all over the place as I was trying to imagine at what age this inhumane / low-life / satan slavemaster son-of-the-b*tch did that horrible act to this boy and how he lived those years until someone saved his life.

Usually I try not to read this kind of story because I become so depressed easily. Sometimes it keeps me up at night. As much as I love and have dreamt all my life to volunteer when the time is right, I don't know I will have enough strength to listen and work on something like this. I can be too emotional, too weak.

What I am trying to say is...

While we should always look up for the good and positive things in life to lift our spirit and hopes up, we should not forget the "harsh reality".

We shouldn't pretend they don't exist. We should not sheild ourselves and live in a fairytale.

When my daughter is old enough to understand life, I want to tell her that there are bright and dark days. Good and evil people. Tears and laughter. Up and down times in life.

People are facing all kind of problems everyday....ranging from mild to severe.

It is good to look "far and beyond" ourselves so we realize our problem is indeed very small or shouldn't have been a problem to begin with.

...Live your life to the fullest, cherish, nourish, appreciate all the blessing your have and help others when you can...

One Lovely {Mon}Day~*

2011-10-11T18:37:00.001-07:00

It sure was nice, very nice indeed to have Monday off. Hip-hip-hooray, who doesn't like an extra day off to do whatever your heart desires? As a matter of fact, I will be off tomorrow too (woot woot!! don't be jealous now baby!) I sure do not mind an extra day or two, the more-the merrier!

{Spending the day cuddling with my little dumpling}
{Just chillin' and getting my much needed vitamin D} I have a feeling that I will be able to wear shorts for weeks or even months. Temperature has been cooler than before but nowhere near "Fall" weather. Just don't be surprise if you see me wearing summer outfits in November.
Old Earrings from Forever21 : Bracelet purchased from Bangkok

We also fed out empty bellies with some gourmet meals at lunch time. It was quite a delicious treat because everything was made in house (like mustard and even ketchup). So delishhhhh. We can't wait to go back already.

Who is ready for some full course meal? Raise your hand up high.

Let's start with soup of the day
......and continue with main courses for three of us hungry wolves Mac'n Cheese for a little girl
....My mounth watering and out of this world delish Crab Cake Burger...We are talking about "real" crab meat, no fillers!
Beef Burger for the man of the houseMy husband will ALWAYS order burger everywhere he goes that has burgers on the menu. Just can't get anything else.
Here is the most exciting part of the meal - Cheesecake!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I hope you have a full belly by now ;)

Fake but Quite Natural Looking~*

2011-10-10T19:40:00.000-07:00

How can something fake look quite natural? Is there such things? You may be wondering what the heck I was talking about. False lashes - that is. YOu know I am a TOTAL sucker when it comes to applying eye makeup, not to mention my failure after failure at trying falsies. Finally, the day has come. I have a success story to share, it was quite an achievement I am telling you.
Buying another pair of falsies was not quite in a plan since I placed an order of a Fiberwig mascara along with some other goodies (a Japanese brand that has fiber in them which I used in the past before moving to the US) from Sasa.com. The thing has yet to arrive and I needed something for my husband's reunion night. Buying anothe tube of mascara was not an option either so I was looking into giving myself a try one more time.
{just ignore my crappy eyeliner job, okie dokie?}

Seeing this brand about 100 times at my grocery store but this "made from (sterilized) 100% human hair" line sounded extremely creepy and turned me off every time. I know..I know it said "sterilized" but they can san whatever they want. My option was quite limited and after looking at the available options I decided to give this brand a try at around $6 - nothing to lose if it didn't work. Most falsies just look way too dramatic and I didn't feel like looking like a drag queen for this particular night. My first impression with this brand is that their bands are clear and invisible, unlike most falsies that have such thick and hard bands which make application more challenging and look quite obvious. The most amazing part, a sucker like me could apply these lashes like a pro (kind of). They look so natural that I had to apply some mascara to build some volumn for night event. Overal, I am quite pleased and glad I gave it a shot.

Disclaimer: I purchased these false lashes with my own money and is not associated with the company.

A Night to Shine~*

2011-10-09T19:20:00.000-07:00

The other night we went to my husband's High School Reunion at a hotel in Downtown. He reunited with his old friends while I reunited with a blouse I bought two years ago.

That skirt is in deep purple and drop dead gorgeous in person but wrinkled like crazy that night!!! Good grief!! I was walking with confidence, not knowing it looked quite horrible..oh well..oh well.

I bought this Bebe blouse back in 2009 for a Company's Christmas Party and that was literally the only chance it got to shine. By looking at all all the details, it is one intricate piece that I just couldn't pass on. I was beyond glad to be able to bring it out and wear it again.

Random photos of the event and hotel

Finally it was time to go home.

Tales of the PoTTy~*

2011-10-06T06:52:00.000-07:00

{Warning: don’t read if you are eating or about to eat, this post is strictly about potty)

If you remember, I briefly mentioned about making an attempt to potty train my two year old awhile back…like several months ago. We were so excited and even bought her a singing potty when she turned two. Heck…nothing happened!

{Her fave potty book, yes we read it about hundred times}

The tales of potty training scared me and my husband. On top of that, our procrastination crept in, we kept pushing it further and further. You know if you are doing this, it means "dedication, patience,determination & commitment". You have to cancel ALL the plans as far as going out or running around doing errands. Forget about it. You exclusively and strictly stay around the potty pretty much ALL DAY.....no kidding!

Month after month spending roughly $80 per month to support Pampers company on two boxes of size 4 diaper and two big packs of wipes started to depress me financially. I forgot to keep track how much money we have spent on diapers ever since my daughter was born…too afraid to imagine. How many diapers go to the landfill…wow that must be great for environment.

This is when a hero came to a rescue. My husband finally took the plunge last week on his days off. Our little one is 2.5 now, ready or not we were going to take this seriously.

Daddy spent two full days around a potty. After one accident and some resistances, he succeeded as far as getting her to pee pee in the potty within a day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! On the second day, she had mastered and graduated the basic course. She went to the potty every time she needed to pee pee. Yessssssss!!!!

Potty training is tricky and every child is not ready at the same time. Some children learn faster or slower than another.

As long as you have your child in a diaper or a pull-up, he or she will NEVER learn. We made this mistake several times when trying to figure out how to train her. There is no way to know when she pees because these diapers absorb everything…they are sooo good…too good to use when potty trained. Plus she never told us when she needed to go.

One day I came up with an idea to just put a pair of panties on her. Bang! That was it. It is kind of risky because you have to clean up the mess after accidents but it is so worth it. She does not like the feeling of pee pee running down her legs at all. On top of that, my husband takes her to the potty every hour whether she wants it or not, she has to go and sit on a potty. Both combinations turn out to work wonderfully for us. She is not fully trained yet because she will no poo poo in the potty and we still have to work on that.

This Japanese potty training video is cute and way too funny. A must-watch for parents and non-parents. My girl LOOOOOVES it, she calls it "oooh-pa-pa" video. A good entainment for today :D Shall we do the potty dance?

Girliness & Road Talk~*

2011-10-05T06:56:00.000-07:00

Lace, polka dots, pink and more lace...bring it on babyyyy. Don't let my girliness fool you. I may seem like a super sweet person from the way I dress, the way I look and the way I talk (with funny accents)..I am indeed a queen B(*cth), no drama queen by the way.

These past two days didn't appear to be good days to be on the road obviously. I almost became a roadkill!.So close to get hit by some stupid idiots who cut in front of me like they don't care if that could kill someone, all they care is to get to their destinations - FAST.

{Blouse, skirt and earrings: Forever21}

This morning on my way to work (this outfit is NOT what I wear to work by the way), this stupid idiot son of the biscuit in an ugly suburban (my apologies for my profanity) made an attempt to cut in front of me (I was in the far right lane which is the slow lane). I honked the horn as a warning, he didn't care and immediately changed lane. LORD...THAT WAS THIS CLOSE to cause a wreck. I kept honking a long sound because I wanted that son of a biscuit to park and get out of his vehicle to have some words with me. I was boiling with anger inside. I had some words of wisdom to lecture him and how close he was about to kill a mother who has a young child at home. I even followed him but that idiot wouldn't stop. Darn it!

I am quite an aggressive driver when on the road to be honest with you, but I don't cut in front of someone like that. I drive according to a speed limit but I get annoyed by drivers who drive below speed limit but stay in the fast lane. Doesn't make sense.

Okay I didn't intend to turn this post into "crazy life in a fast lane", oh well.
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*~The Look of Love by Diana Krall~*

Strictly Professional & A Long Lost Bloggy Friend~*

2011-10-04T12:06:00.000-07:00

{Blue tee: Forever21, Pencil skirt - old: from junior department at Kohl's, Blazer & Shoes: from Bangkok, Handbag - old: Giani Bini}

Obviously, sickness is not going to stop a blog addict like me forever. This is when forgotten photos from a camera come into play when you are too sick to pose and have pictures taken.

I wore this outfit to work last week. Just can't deny that a pencil skirt (of course with a slit for walking/sitting convenience) is one of the greatest fashion inventions ever in my opinion. It is sophisticated, sexy and mature. It flattens certain body types, makes women look powerful, yet brings out that feminism/sex appeal in you.

This pic has nothing to do with my outfit above but I just can't wait for the weather to get cooler to where I can wear a tweed jacket and a glamorous (faux) fur jacket again. That fur jacket only got worn once or twice each year.

Last but not least, I want to do a quick shout out for one of my long lost bloggy friends. I have noticed that some of you found a nice little friendship network via bloggers whom I list or leave comments on my little blog. That is awesome, keep expanding that friendship ring :)

Collette of "StatementsinFashion.net" has recently returned to the blogsphere. I knew Collette since my early days of blogging. We became closer when I did a small blog makeover for her. Even though I wanted to pinch her for wanting changes after changes, I totally heart this lady up to these days. I knew I was not up for a challenge of launching a blog design business at that time. I was glad we did a test :)

She has such unique, bold and awesome sense of style, and her fave store is Forever21. If you wanna know the meaning behind that dragonfly on her blog, read it :) As a person, she is gorgeous, silly and beyond cool. I sure missed seeing her blog in the last few months. So excited this sexy cougar back on da blog!!!!!!

Giveaway Winner & Sweetheart {Award}

2011-10-03T18:07:00.000-07:00

Hello...hello from a sick bloggerella. Despite a beautiful weekend, I felt crappy all weekend long with bad cold symptoms that my little one brought home with her last week from daycare. Yuck..yuck..and yuck, that is an inevitable part of being parents. You get sick more often when you have your little one in daycare or school.

Those little people are such germy little guys/gals. Our house is a germ infested place at the moment since all three of us have been sick (I know you are glad I coundn't transmit any through a computer screen)..cough..cough. I may be disappearing for a little while from commenting on your blog until I recoup. Can't wait to catch up!!

A winner of a LoveMode $25 E-Gift Certificate is Mandy of PrettyMaking. Congratulations girl!!! Please send me an email and I'll forward your email adress to LoveMode so they can send you an e-certificate. Enjoy shopping :)

For those who didnt' win, no worries. It will be your day one day :) Thanks so much for your participation.

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One of the reasons I continue to blog is because of an interaction I get from “you” - my fellow bloggers and occasionally non-bloggers who stumble onto my blog. It means something extra special when someone takes their time to pour their heart out and write me a comment or give me a feedback (not included “nice blog”, “follow me back”, “wanna follow each other?” kind of comment). That definitely motivates and encourages me to write more..laugh more..think more and share more.

I do “not” comment on every blog I read. Most of the time, I open up a page, read and click “X” tab to exit. Those who I usually leave comment on are the ones I love to visit and I feel that I can relate to them in some way. Over the course of months of blogging, I have come across so many people and blogs. Among those blogs, there are some special bloggers who make my blogging journey MUCH MORE pleasant and enjoyable. You ladies prove to be "real", are simply awesome and have some interesting words of wisdom/opinion/fact to share.

I just want to dedicate this post to mention these fellow bloggers who are behind my motivations and inspirations when I am about to hit that "close this blog button".

You gals are my blogging fairy (if there is such thing...lol)

“I truly admire all of you and thank you very much”

Jo of Jo's Jumbled Jardiniere: you all may know Jo by now if you have read my blog. Jo always pours her heart out when commenting and I can’t tell her enough how I admire her honesty and comments.

Peh Sun of Squeeze the Pug: similar to Jo but Peh Sun writes a bit shorter :P I admire her as I get to know this lady. You have gotten to know her to prove why I feel that way. In her profession, she deals with human’s blood and guts, but in playtime you may get to peek into her amazing collection of handbags and accessories.

Bessie of Bravoe Runway: I don’t even remember when this stylish lady came into my (blog) life but boy I am glad I have met her. Not only she has an amazing style, she is a real sweetheart and she likes to guess what my real name would be.

Kim of Sassy Up Town Chic: Kim also deserves “best comment” award alongside Jo. She is straight to the point, downright honest and beyond sweet. I am always looking forward to seeing her comments and what she has to say about certain things.

Sharon of Make Mommy Chic: Sharon makes my day every single time I see her post. You can’t get any more “real” than Sharon. She is INCREDIBLY funny, hilarious, sincere and full of positive energy. Her posts always crack me up when she talks about her kids or other things in her life.

Yvonne of Simplyvonne: I feel that I can relate to Yvonne in many ways. We are mommies, we have little daughter, our parents live far away from us. Yvonne has an amazing taste in home decor and awesome/artistic photography skills (not to mention that cute little dumpling). Her blog is simply "lovely".

Shinny Pretty Things

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Sheri of Sweet Pea

Celebration of Life {& Love}

2011-09-30T06:18:00.000-07:00

There was a very special reason to celebrate. Papa (grandfather on my husband’s side) turned 92 years old this past weekend.

Ninety-two years and counting – 92 years – what a milestone?!

What is it like to live decade after decade after decade and witness all the changes in the world in the past 92 years?

…from world war after world war to economic crisis after economic crisis…

…the up and down times…

…from the births of his own children / grandchildren to the deaths of his beloved ones…

The most surprising part – he is still driving by himself and overall in good health. Amazing, isn’t it. That is such a blessing. He lives a very enriched life and is surrounded by so much love and support from his children and grandchildren.

My own grandparents (both paternal and maternal) passed away even before I graduated from high school but I still have many beautiful memories about them. My paternal grandparents were of Chinese ancestors and we lived in the same house as I was growing up in Bangkok. My grandpa and I were not close and somehow I felt that he favored my brother because he was a boy (like most Chinese families where they have prefer boys over girls).

I remember my grandpa as a very tall, tanned and thin Chinese man who loved to visit Chinatown in the afternoon. He always came home with some weird goodies like pork stomach (which I couldn’t stand its odor up to these days). He liked to sit by the door, rolled his cigar, read his Chinese book and relaxed. With my grandma, I had a fairly strong attachment to her, we were very close because she spent a great amount of time watching me while my parents were at work. She was a great cook and very kind, but could be very strict and firm at the same time.

I would love for my daughter to spend more time with both sets of grandparents. At the moment, it is impossible for my girl to spend more time with my parents because we live in different country on different continents, but one day I hope she gets to know and learn more about them and the place I was born and grew up / the language and the culture. I strongly believe that kids can learn some important lessons and values from grandparents and develop a very special bond. There are certain things in life that we, parents, can’t give or teach them like the way grandparents can.

**Just a quick reminder, LoveMode Giveaway ends at midnight tomorrow (CST). Scroll down to enter**

I had SO much fun reading comments from my previous post, some of you ladies cracked me up big time and they were beyond true.(By the way, my real name is not "Halen", good guess Bessie! LOL) I think I may start a theme "Ouch! Punch me (or you) in the face" kind of post every week to bring up some controversial topics / dark sides of blogsphere. I am sick and tired of doing and reading outfit posts 5 days a week. What do ya think?

How real can you be in the blogging world?

2011-09-29T06:25:00.000-07:00

{Warning: text-heavy}

I find this joy in unleashing my inner thoughts and what I think about blogsphere. You know I have a lot to say about people and blogs after a year of blogging.....I really learn some interesting facts.

Today's subject is about "Being Real".

How many of us are willing to unveil "how we really feel", "who we really are" and "what is really going through our mind"?

Heck! Those are some tough questions that I can't even answer.

As a non-professional blogger, I do set my limits as to what I feel comfortable sharing with you and the world. First off, I do not have enough courage to put my bare naked face without "any" makeup up on this blog. Next up, I am not willing to reveal my real name / where I live / what profession I have or even pets' names, and last but not least you are not going to see the full faced pictures of my family members (husband/daughter and etc.) at the moment. I have a safety concern about revealing personal data to the whole wide world but one thing you can rest assured - all the feelings I share here with you come from my heart and are as real as they can be. They reflect who I really am as a person.

I have a mixed feeling about "being real" particularly about bloggers' appearance: how they dress/how they look here. To me, blogging is like a chanel of one's expression and freedom of speech.

Of course, I do not look all glammed with full makeup like in the photos shown on this blog 7 days a week in real life. I am an average woman, a mom, a career woman, a maid at home and a very busy person trying to juggle 100 things in one day but at least for this blog I want to look pretty in the photos.

Does that mean I am fake and shallow?

Do I have to show my bare face, freckles, sun spots, broken veins and wrinkles to prove that I am oh-so-real?

You know it is funny. People will judge you whether you are being secretive or revealing too much information. Let's admit it, we judge..some do more than another.

There are bloggers who buy or wear clothes just for blog photos, but do not wear those clothes in real life. Does that sound a bit extreme? "Yes", but it is not my business. Whatever reason they do that for, it is their life..their money. Are they fake for wearing what they don't normally wear in real life? In my opinion, no. Like I said, this is a channel if expression. They express what they want to wear in their world. At the end, it is someone else's blog, not mine. If I don't like, I just don't read.

As far as my clothes / bags / shoes you see here, I bought them because they reflect "my style" and I like them. I am not a style expert nor a wannabe fashion blogger. I show you what I like and what I wear. If you have read my blog long enough, you know I am not a type of person who buys what others buy. I have rather a strong preference of style particularly feminine and edgy clothing. I do not have all the fabulous new and hot-now pieces to share because my shopping spree goes through phases. At some point you will see a full episode of outfit posts. Then no clothes related posts for a few weeks. I do not have a generous budget to buy clothes/bags/shoes just for blog photos that I can't wear in real life.

To sum things up, I am not sure if I am being "fake" by anyone's standard but I am happy with the line I drew between blog world and real world.

Now tell me - how real can you be?

In my future post, how about annoying people in the blogsphere? Let's see how many more followers I will lose :D

Perfectly Purple & Small Belt Galore

2011-09-28T07:02:00.000-07:00

{Dress and Shoes purchased from Bangkok / Belt: Forever21}

I recently took the time and forced myself to clean my messy little closet. Upon cleaning, I stumbled onto a few dresses I haven't even worn. I guess I am still suffering a mild case of clothes hoarder. I even bought this same dress in two different colors? Don't ask me why. Now it is time to stop shopping and use what I have (yeah right, how many times I said that?)

My small collection of belts over years, I think I have enough.

{Purple shoes}

Tomorrow's topic will talk about "How real/fake can you be in blogsphere?"

Don't forget to enter LoveMode Giveaway if you haven't done so in a previous post :)

Giveaway {e-Gift Certificate from LoveMode}~**

2011-09-27T06:44:00.000-07:00

As promised yesterday, LoveMode Giveaway is here. LoveMode is kindly offering one of you lucky ducks a $25 Gift Certificate to shop at their online store. Juniors or seniors, young or older, small or big girls/ladies...there is something for everyone.

You asked: "What can you buy with $25 considering inflation these days?"
I answered: "One or even two items"

Here are some of my personal choices for Fall in case you don't know what to get.

{Basic Must-Have}

{Sassy attitude}

{Cute and chic - these 3 dresses are in Clearance section where you buy one get one free!}

How to join

This giveaway is opened to U.S. readers only and will end at midnight (CST) on 10/1/11. Please come back to see an announcement on 10/3. One person can earn up to 4 points.

Mandatory

*Follow 52NewDays blog via Google Friends Connect (1 point)

Optional

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LoveMode: Black Dotted Lace Sleeve Top & "Tweet me"

2011-09-26T06:56:00.000-07:00

{Top: courtesy of LoveMode}

{Shorts and Shoes: purchased from Bangkok}

Earlier last week, I was contacted by Lovemode.com if I would be interested in picking an item from their online store to share wit you. Upon a small investigation to find out who they were and browsed through their site, my response was "yes". In short, Lovemode is a Trendy, cute and affordable juniors clothing company based in the U.S., they also have a sister's site called Kiki's Fashions which offer trendy "maternity" clothes. Why didn't I learn about their site when I was pregnant?!?!

Being smaller than average women can be really hard to find clothes that fit. Undoubtedly, my main shopping source is therefore at junior department. Not that I want to look underage but Junior clothing fit better in many cases. I have been pretty lucky about finding items for both work and causal days from that department, they do have some amazing finds.

There were a few pieces that I had in mind but ended up with this black top with dotted details on the sleeves since I thought it seemed very versatile and unique.

My thoughts

Price and Quality:

Similar to Forever 21. Quality is good for its price. I wish its fabric was not this sheer but it may be designed to look this way for a reason. I can't really judge if other items are better or worse in terms of quality. Another alternative to Forever21 if you like to shop around this price range. They also have a lot of sexy clubbing wears for stylish social butterflies. Boy, their models are so busty, I am jealous!!

Sizing:

the smallest size is "S" and the largest size available is "L". Sizings for each item are varied so be sure to pay close attention to their sizing chart. Some "small" runs bigger or small than another.

LoveMode is offering a gift certificate to one of my fellow bloggers and 52NewDays' readers. Giveaway detail is coming up tomorrow (Tuesday 9/27) - please stay tuned :D

Disclaimer: the top shown above was sent to me exclusively for a review purpose. My opinions/thoughts were of my own and weren't influenced by the company sponsoring such item.

On another note, has someone noticed a banner on the left? That's right, I finally ventured into Twitter!!! Still try yo figure out how to do things there, please feel free to add.

Octoblast~*

2011-09-23T06:31:00.000-07:00

October + Blast = a month long filled with fun fall acitivities.

Autumn officially begins today in the United States of America…yes TODAY, folks. I could feel cool and breezy wind this morning when I opened a garage. Better than a heat blast!

Anyway, next week is the last week of September. Can you BELIEVE it?? Once we hit October, time will fly even faster. We are talking about Christmas shopping in about a month it two depending how early you want to start. For our little family, we are scheduled to do so many fun activities so I thought I shared our fun-filled agenda with you.

We will kick off the month with my husband's High School Reunion at a hip boutique hotel in downtown. I am quite excited about this event as I will get to glam up - that's right. Normally, the only big annual night event is my Company Christmas Party in December so this reunion gives us parents who rarely get to leave the house at night in almost three years a chance to go PARTAY!!!

Pumpkin Patch Photoshoot - it has become our tradition to take our little one to a church by my work where they set up a pumpkin patch and sell pumpkins for decorations. I am equipped wit a camera and ready to snap a bunch of pictures.

Balloon Festival - we made it in 2009 the year my daughter was born but failed last year. It launches fairly early in the morning like 7am!!! It was an amazing sight and seen to see all the colorful bolloons filling up the blue sky. We will make an attempt to get there bright and early this year. I think our daughter will have a blast since she is older now.

Last but not least, there are also my Company Picnic, two Birthdays celebration and Halloween.

{Moi in my Dark Lady Halloween costume last year}

Let's the fun begin~*

*~What are you looking forward to in October?~*

City Look: Working Woman Version

2011-09-22T06:27:00.000-07:00

{Top: Zara / Blazer and shoes: from Bangkok / Pants: Express - "the Columnist", Bag: Dior Panarea}

Simplicity at its best appears to be a perfect description for this outfit. Less is more proves to be true in many cases when it comes to fashion and everything else in our lives. Dated back to December of last year, I was determined to add more colorful outfits to my dark and dull wardrobe. By far I think I have successfully accomplished that particular mission.

Now that Fall is near, I find myself falling in love with black and neutral tones once again. This is what I wore to work yesterday.

On an unrelated note, I just wanted to thank you ladies so much for sharing your personal experience in my last post. It is wonderful to hear how each of you manage your time between your blog life and real life :)

Living outside the blog~*

2011-09-21T06:33:00.000-07:00

I am going to go off topic a bit to give you a break from my outfit post attack episode. Let’s get your mind off lace, harem pants and leather skirt, and talk about life and blog.

Fellow bloggers, is there such things as blogging too much? Do you feel that you live your life around your blog “sometimes”? Can you go without blogging for a week or even a day? Do you feel obligated to blog? Have you lost motivations? How do you keep blogging?

Strange but true, blogging has become a part of my life more than I ever imagined or wanted it to be. Each one of us started up our blog journey for many different reasons. Some use it as a fashion runway to fulfill their fashionista side. Some use it to showcase their talents in makeup, cooking, DIY projects. Some use it as a dairy. I started out this blog as an outlet or an escape from a 24 hours mommy life after my daughter turned 18 months. Now my little blog has turned into..(I had to think about this for a few seconds as what words would best describe my blog)…a channel of my thoughts and expressions. That’s it!! Voila!! My channel of thoughts and expressions.

I love expressing myself thought writing/typing. I am not a great speaker if that makes sense. With writing, I am able to put and organize my thoughts and emotions into words. In today’s world, let's admit it that life is hectic - work, work, work, social activities, family activities and that leaves us very little time to slow down, sit down and think profoundly and soundly. I found that blogging is a wonderful channel to translate your ideas....express our thoughts and release positive creativities while interacting with like minded people. Blogging continues to amaze me as I continue to discover many forgotten / surprising / likes / dislikes / facts about myself, things and people around me.

{Photo from last year}

Blogging is so much fun and can be extremely addictive. The most posts I have ever done in one week might be 6 at one time but that is quite rare. My post frequency used to be very sporadic and I posted as little as one or two times a week in the past. Last year was quite a rollercoaster because I was so busy with mommy duties and couldn't spend as much time for this blog as I wish. Until recently that I have more time and thoughts to share, I get to blogt 4 – 5 times a week. My blogging activities are strictly at night after I put my daughter in bed. I know there are bloggers who blog 6-7 days on most weeks, how can you do that?!

One big question popped in my head awhile back. When you blog so frequently, how can you separate blogging from interfering your real life activities? How can you "not" think about blog when you do not blog?

This got me thinking in the past few weeks that perhaps I needed to take a step back from blogging and find a good balance. Blogging is like work in many ways depending on your blogging purposes. At first, you blog just for the fun of it and at some point you feel obligated to blog because you assume people await to read your posts. Once your blog gains more traffic, it drives you to grow more and more readership. If you want your blog to be successful, it equals more time and effort. It is important to interact and comment on other blogs which equals more sleepless hours / less time for real life activities.

A fellow blogger once shared with me that she wishes to blog more often but doesn't want people to feel that she blogs all the time. To me, I feel that it is my blog and I can blog as often as I desire. Readers can say or think however they want. We should go by our feelins and guts, not how others would feel. My blog is purely random and I choose what I want to share, I do not go by what will please the crowd. If people like my blog the way it is, I am very happy. If they don't like, they don't have to read.

Back to work vs blog. Obviously blogging can interfere your real life activities if not managed or balanced properly. Recently I asked myself - "Can I just live my life without thinking about taking pictures of my outfits / food / trips for the blog?" Or "What content to write next?"

Do any of these questions ever come across your mind?

This past Friday, I took a very small step. No blogging related activities (no blog reading, commenting, checking, thinking about blog, no pictures taking) starting from 5pm on Friday through 12pm on Sunday. Living a blog free /social media free / internet free lifestyle is a must for everyone. What do you think?

"All in My Mind" by Pete Belasco

Oh so blue~*

2011-09-20T08:26:00.001-07:00

Thanks you ladies so much for trying to help me with the correct name of those pants in my previous post. Up to this point I still don't know what they are. Some said cropped pants with pleats. Some said Carrot pants, very interesting indeed. I know they are not harem (what I wore was harem). So I may just ask my BBF back in Bangkok to buy a pair or two. I am sure those pants can be found easily.

Trying on something we are not used to is a risky choice but I like to fo that from time to time. Some may be a hit and some are miss or wreck but fashion is all about experimenting, right? Today I am back in my comfort zone. My unusal choice today is this shade of blue. So very blue. I pair this tee with a faux leather skirt and add a big belt to complete the look.

Mama VS Harem Pants - Take 1

2011-09-19T09:54:00.000-07:00

Never thought in a million year that I would wear these harem pants, ever! I am totally out of my comfort zone but I am glad I tried it. I have to tell you upfront that I am late in the harem trend simply because I was not so into it and it is hard to rock the look in my opinion. My initial intention was to get another pair that I saw on an actress in a Thai series (see pics below). I still don't know the exact name/style of the trousers she was wearing so my search still continues.

There is something about those pants that fascinates and captures my heart. Its shape is super feminine, chic and sophisticated. It can be casual or dressy. It accentuates your shape and makes you look like you have a small waist, bigger butt and long legs. A petite lady will look great in these pants if styled as shown in below photos. Can you sense that I want it badly? Harem pants happen to own a few similarities to my mysterious pants. They can make your butt look bigger as well as your thighs. They can make you look shorter and finally they can wreck you if not styled properly.

I am not a style expert but I know one thing that they will look decent on a person if they comes in the right lenght like mid calf. Be sire to wear heels. I actually like these pants, they are incredibly comfy, edgy and very different. I wish I could find a better top to pair with but this will suffice for now. However, my search still continues. I was thinking they may be "paper bag waist pants" but I don't think they are the same thing. If any of you know what those pants are called, please do let me know :)

If you read my subject line, you know there will be part ll. I have another pair that come in a different lenght. Stay tuned for future post.

*~Precious by Esperanza Spalding~*

Feather & Scarves

2011-09-18T18:42:00.000-07:00

{Feather Earrings and Necklace: Forever 21}

My online order from Forever21 arrived this weekend and I couldn't be more excited. Why? This last portion of my purhases contained some accessories, my favorites of all! I just couldn't resist that bold and lovely purple color of those feather earrings. They sure will add a punch of color to any outfit. Next up, feather bib necklace. This necklace is so dreamy and soft. I found a new use for necklace, use it to dress my bag. Can't be any more versatile than this!

Oh Forever21..I wonder how many lawsuits thee has received for copying other designers. I spotted a very strong Hermes scarf eletments/designs in this scarf when I spotted it online. For less than, $10. I was willing to take my risk and order it. Gorgeous color but don't expect the look and feel of it to the real thing.

I do not wear scarves at all during summer here. Under the triple digit heat index where I live doesn't make scarves sound like a good idea. Fall sounds like an ideal season to incorporate scarves into every wardrobe out there. I just can't wait to use both scaves in the weeks to come.
But until then, I am going to use it to dress up my bag.

Missoni Inspired Dress & My Happy color

2011-09-15T06:52:00.000-07:00

Talking about a happy color, what color comes across your mind? Yellow - that is. Yellow is cheerful, bright and it is associated with happiness and mood lifting effect just to look at it. I never imagined wearing a yellow dress or anything like that but mustard yellow is an exception. It is a perfect mixture of yellow and a hint of brown.

{Dress & Belt: Forever21, Shoes & Handbag: from Bangkok, Necklace: designed and made by me}

I had no clue this particular dress is a knock off version of Missoni - an Italian Fashion House. Honestly, that's how much I know about fashion..duh! I just knew I liked it..a lot. Its unique pattern, color combinations, style makes it a really nice little dress for work and play. It is also fully lined with a zipper in the back. The smallest size available is "S" yet armholes and neckline are a bit too low. That problem can be fixed with some safety pins without the need to pay for costly alterations. I plan on wearing a cardigan or a long coat over it anyway so this will work. Not too bad afterall. I LOVE it even more with a mustard yellow belt. I can see myself wearing this dress in many different ways. For $23 before tax, it is a steal!

My Handmade Necklace

Ever since I blogged...

2011-09-14T08:31:00.000-07:00

One of the things I love about blogging is that I begin to learn about myself and discover my passions and dreams through thoughts and words written out in words here in this blog.

Ever since I started blogging. I have discover many passions like photography, writing and soon jewelry making along with a great inspiration to become a better mom.

After one year, two months and 14 days into blogging, I am quite amazed at "Total Pageviews". It almost reach 50,000. Without this stat, I seriously had no clue how many people have stopped by this little blog.

I would have closed this blog long time ago since it was my understanding that no one ever read it but me. You have no idea how many times the thought of closing this blog came across my mind but I know I love blogging too much that I don't see myself giving up anytime soon.

Blogsphere is such an inspiring place to nest and share your thoughts and creativities with others. I am excited to see how far this blog will go and what else I will discover along my journey.

**What have you learn or found through blogging?**

{Ever since we met by Chris Botti}

Stripes and Ruffles~*

2011-09-13T07:25:00.000-07:00

{Blouse: Forever21, Skirt: Express (old since last year)}

Believe it or not that pink was not my favorite choice of color in the past but now I have so many pink items in my closet. It is amazing how our preference and style have evolved and changed over months or years. There were many trends I could not imagine wearing but now am very fond of.

This Forever21 blouse was the one and only in an entire store, just the perfect amount of stripes. I love the thin black lines on the crisp and clean white fabric. You can never go wrong with black and white combination. Its shape offers that laid back and casual look. I am quite amazed with F21 quality during my recently trip I must say. Fabric is thick, no loose stitches in sight. We all know F21 is known for their super trendy and cheap clothing but notorious for poorly made clothes. True, their quality is not top notch and won't last for years, yet with careful selection and maintenance you can find some nice items at a fraction of the costs and they last longer with proper care. They really have better quality pieces hidden among the poorer made ones.

So very "Chanel" inspired~*

2011-09-12T11:16:00.000-07:00

Ladies, if you adore lace, feminine and romantic clothing like me..you are in for a sweet treat. Nothing screams romance like lace items. I literally "gasped" when my eyes met this cardigan on a display at Forever21. It may sound like a crazy statement but heck that was how I really felt. The shape of a cardigan, bows, buttons, colors cream and white...it is so Chanel. It is so very parisian that I had to whip out my Chanel mini classic flap from her dust bag to pair with this cardigan! I felt like I was in France..haha.

If you read my previous post, I shopped at F21 on three separate occasions over the weekend. As crazy as it may sound I took my two year old with me on the first trip. Result? I had to do a super power shopping and my little one eventually had a major tantrum (thank god, in a car!!). That night I decided to shop online since my shopping trip was not so smooth, couldn't get much out of that trip. On Sunday, my mother in law was kind enough to offer to watch my little one so I had more time to actually browse through every corner for 2 full hours.

{please excuse wrinkles on my skirt :D}

I am most excited about this cardigan and knew right away what skirts I am going to pair with. Size S is perfect for petite ladies because you will have to wear something underneath. I creatd two looks - one top and two skirts which I have had for a long time. The pink skirt is also from F21 since last year. I actually put it on blog sale but no one wanted it so I took it down. That cream lace skirt was purchased in Bangkok back in Feb.

I have yet to wear this outfit out in public. It is gorgeous both way in my opinion and there is no need to add accessories. However it is quite dressy and seems appropriate for a date night at some fancy restaurants. I will find way to style it with pants too.

I didn't see this cardigan online though, it may only be available in store. Good luck finding stuff at F21! Gosh, their store is HUGE and very overwhelming. I found myself wandering like a lost duckling. Their racks are so freaking crammed you cant pull stuff out to see the size. I prefer shopping at a physical store so I can see the fabric and quality as opposed to online where it is hard to tell. Overall I got some awesome pieces and you will see more outfit posts in the days to come.

Which look do you like better?

Zebra at the beach & Forever21 Haul~*

2011-09-11T15:52:00.000-07:00

Zebra and the beach? Something is not right, they just don't sound right ever. I was totally not dressed for the beach because our intention was to have dinner in that area.

{Top: Zara, Bottom: Forever21, Sunglasses: Guess}
Since our little girl had yet to experience walking on the sand and playing in sea water, I thought might as well take her there to kill time before our reservation. We were there for 20 minutes, it was the fun filled 20 miutes and I was so glad we took her there.

At first she made a funny face when I let her walk on sandy beach with bare feel, it must feel strange to her. She was a bit hesistant to get into the water at first but boy once she got in she never wanted to leave!! I couldn't wait to bring her back again so she could play for as long as she likes..and of course in her cute little swimming suit.

Dinner time...yum...yum...yum. What to eat at the beach? Seafood, of course. This restaurant has been here for 100 years! That's right 100 years and their grilled shrimps are to die for!!!

After dinner, we thought we should treat our little princess (and our bellies) with some sweet treat!! Ben & Jerry Ice Cream...Yay!!

I was a total shopaholic this weekend, I admit. After 2 months of shopping break, I resumed my bad habit and shopped both in-store and online at Forever21. My goodness, has anyone been there recently to check out their fall stuff?!?! It is a must go because I could tell you that I went there twice (sat and sun), on top of that I did oder more online. I'll go into detail as to why I had to go there twice in my next post. Be prepared for my outfit post attack this week!

From Wild to Sweet~*

2011-09-08T18:54:00.000-07:00

Having a child definitely brings out a child in you, it is so very true. My husband and I took our little girl to the Bayou Wildlife Park and experienced these animals up close and personal. How close? See it for yourself. It was so close that our little one freaked out. These deers were so so cute, they were actually like dogs following us everywhere (because I was holding food) and wiggled their tails in excitement.

*{My handmade Bracelet}*

Yay for me, I finally ventured out from "auto" mode to a "manual" mode on my DSLR with success for the first time without reading manual. Do you remember a book (Nikon D3100 for Dummies) that my husband kinly gave me awhile back? Yes..yes that book. I only read a few pages and gave up..pathetic I know but I am not fond of reading manual. Heck, I could figure out on my own eventually! This last picture of a donkey is my most favorite. The lighting and everything is just perfect. LOVE~

{Beautiful cakes from Asian bakery in Chinatown}Seriously, these cakes are just too beautiful to eat!!!!!! We didn't have enough cash last time to buy all the eye candies so I kept on bugging my husband to go back. I won the battle! We went back and loaded on the carb goodness. Yumm!!!!!!!