A Love Letter to Mothers-to-be~*

This post is especially dedicated to my two best friends “Ms. D” and “Ms. P”, who soon will start their journey in the wonder world of motherhood.



Ms. D, I know that you have been waiting for this moment forever to bring a child into this world. I could feel your anticipation, excitement and frustration.



Ms. P, while you say you were not ready to become a mother when we last talked somehow I sensed that your inner self was whispering softly that you were anxious to know what it is like to be one. Now that it is official you are a preggo, there is no turning back.


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You two are very special to me. I couldn’t be more excited for you to begin your own adventure and share with me the up and down times. Your life is about to change in a way you have never imagined. I am not going to lie or sugarcoat that every moment in motherhood is fabulous, awesome, wonderful and ecetra..ecetra. It is going to be challenging, frustrating, tiring and exhausting but at the end of the day when you look at that previous little face sleeping peacefully – you will find peace, love and an answer to life in a way you have never experienced with anything in the world.



There will be times when you scream like a maniac…pull your hair…have such intense anger...feel so darn tired all the time…hate and want to divorce your husband…be on the edge of marriage a few times...act like a mean bitch…feel as if a germaphobic…can’t manage your time…feel like you forever lose an independence...are extremely sleep deprived…feel that you may die young from stresses…can’t balance your life as a mom vs a career woman…feel like you fail…cry out loud…feel depressed…are worried about every little thing…not knowing if you are doing the right thing…feel like a fool…have mommy’s guilts…have moments you regret…wish you could turn back time to fix those moments.



I want you to know that I have been there. I have done those things and I want you to know it is absolutely normal to act, to feel or to be ones on those things mentioned above. It is okay.



No matter how much we read..no matter how much we prepare – there will be times when things are out of controls. We will no longer be a center of a universe. People will no longer care much about you and the first thing they ask "how is the baby?" and more questions about baby and perhaps how you survive motherhood and sleepless nights. No fret my dear, you will always have me by your side and will always give ypu the same amount of love & attention.



Motherhood is all about learning from trials and errors. No one knows it all.



Having a child does not only change your life, it changes lives of people around you. It is a family’s business. The birth of a child brings joy to older generations which in turn can bring some stresses and pressures. You may find yourself being more irritated than usual especially if you live close to your relatives. Hang in there. Just try to remember they have good intention.


...Motherhood makes you cry over things that you didn’t previously have any concern before…motherhood brings out the best and worst in every woman...motherhood brings out both emotional and physical strengths you have never realized you have….motherhood shows you what an unconditional love truly means...

Wishing you an enjoyable, healthy, stress-free, pain-free, tantrum-free pregnancy...

With love,

Nelah