For Real?

It had been awhile since I got to sit down to write a “real” post. When crafting a post like this, I would like to do so when time allows and my mind is running clearly and efficiently. Lately it is mainly work that consumes and overwhelms me during the day to where my inspiration to blog after work quickly fades into the night. No complain about busy days at work though - the busier, the more secured the job in today’s economy.

I have been in the blogsphere over two years now and I guess I have experienced all facets of blogging ranging from blogging blues to haters and beyond. Not exactly the kind of experience I want to have but after all I guess we all have to be mentally prepared since we willingly put ourselves out here where you can be seen by the unseen visitors.  I love talking about blog in general and at times pick a topic of blogging to elaborate my thoughts. Over the years, one of the most popular topics which both bloggers and readers frequently bring up is how “real” bloggers are.

  What is the definition of “real” on the internet? Who is real?   Who is fake? Can we really give an accurate judgment of someone by reading their blogs? (Well I guess we can in some cases.)   Some people said bloggers who pour their hearts out to talk about their personal problems/struggles are real while bloggers who don’t talk about problems are fake since they always portray happiness, rainbows and sunshine.   I have to disagree with that statement. Being the kind of person who write mixed posts, this is how I see it.   I have always admired people who put themselves out in the cyberspace to share their struggles/problems and I too write/vent about my struggles with motherhood on several occasions. I always believe in sharing with others – be it problems you face in life and how you deal with challenging times. You just never know who stop by and how your experience could help others in the most surprising way. Words are the most powerful tools/weapons of all kind. Blogsphere is just a perfect place, no one knows you in real life so we all can talk, vent, ramble, whine, share and even use such harsh words hoping to ruin other people's day.   To admit you have problems/struggles is not easy for everybody and I respect those who don’t talk about it as much as those who share with others. An ability to open up to talk about difficulties in life comes naturally for some people but that does not mean it is the same for the rest of population. Some people find it easy to write/share as a way to relieve their stress level/fear but some people decide to deal with it privately. It is easy to understand why bloggers who admit their problems seem to connect and touch their readers at a much deeper level, because after all we all have some sort of problems and we look to find comfort from someone we can relate to. There are days when I feel down. There are days I only want to surround myself with positive thoughts, read about happy things so I can temporarily distract myself from the problems before jumping right back at it. That is when I turn to blogs who show positivity, beautiful things and happiness for some lift-me-up read. This world needs balances, that too applies to cyberspace. We have bloggers who talk about serious/heavy topics yet we also need those feel-oh-so-good blogs that make us smile, give hopes and inspirations.   What are your thoughts?