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Warning: this post is all about venting and whining :D
My little girl turned 21 months old last week. It is not only another milestone for her but for me as a mother too. It is hard to believe that I have been a mom for almost two years now!
Watching her grow and accomplishing new milestones are incredibly pleasant to my eyes, hearing her giggling and calling "mommy" are like the sound of music to my ears. Motherhood brings the best and worst out of me. It shows me the kind of strenght I never realized I have and the meaning of unconditional love. On the opposite , I have become more exhausted and irritable than ever. My husband and I agree on one thing - we never realized what it takes to be parents until this second year. We thought the first year was hard, Boy this second year is even more challenging! In order to be parents..here is the list of things you will need as a weapon...
TONS of:
1) Energy: to keep up with a very active little person. The older they get, the more energy they have (unlike adults - the older we are, the less energy we have T_T). My husband and I have NO idea how parents in their 40's and up can handle that.
2) Understanding and sympathy
3) Kindness
4) Patience: this one is extremely hard for me because I am a very hot tempered person and do not have such quality. I could only handle so much of her fussiness before I whine and throw a tantrum myself. However, i have become MUCH better and continue to improve in this area.
5) Creativity: you will have to learn to be creative and imaginative even though you are not that type. It takes so much of creativities to get a child to eat, to prevent him/her from crying or throwing tantrums, to keep him/her entertain while awake, to encourage him/her to be confident, to trick him/her to take a bath or go to bed, to stop him/her to do something they are not supposed to do without making them upset and the list goes on and on.
6) Dedication: we devote our time, love and attention to our little one. My husband and I barely have time for ourselves. I have always been jealous of most couples who have the same work schedules and be home at the same time. We have different work schedules and haven't had weekends off together like other couples. I kind of get to experience what it is like to be a single mom, it is very difficult to care for a young child by yourself most of the time when your husband is not there. For the worst part, my parents live in another country and my in-laws are still working full time. I wish i had an on-call nanny whenever I need a break!
I know a terrible two is nothing compare to the time she grows into a teenager. I may die from stress lol.
My daughter is the BEST and SWEETEST thing that ever happened to me but I sometimes sure miss "the freedom of doing whatever/going whenever I feel like" kind of feeling. Life is so different when you bring a child into a picture. It is not always picture perfect but that's what makes life much more fulfilling and meaningful.
My little girl turned 21 months old last week. It is not only another milestone for her but for me as a mother too. It is hard to believe that I have been a mom for almost two years now!
Watching her grow and accomplishing new milestones are incredibly pleasant to my eyes, hearing her giggling and calling "mommy" are like the sound of music to my ears. Motherhood brings the best and worst out of me. It shows me the kind of strenght I never realized I have and the meaning of unconditional love. On the opposite , I have become more exhausted and irritable than ever. My husband and I agree on one thing - we never realized what it takes to be parents until this second year. We thought the first year was hard, Boy this second year is even more challenging! In order to be parents..here is the list of things you will need as a weapon...
TONS of:
1) Energy: to keep up with a very active little person. The older they get, the more energy they have (unlike adults - the older we are, the less energy we have T_T). My husband and I have NO idea how parents in their 40's and up can handle that.
2) Understanding and sympathy
3) Kindness
4) Patience: this one is extremely hard for me because I am a very hot tempered person and do not have such quality. I could only handle so much of her fussiness before I whine and throw a tantrum myself. However, i have become MUCH better and continue to improve in this area.
5) Creativity: you will have to learn to be creative and imaginative even though you are not that type. It takes so much of creativities to get a child to eat, to prevent him/her from crying or throwing tantrums, to keep him/her entertain while awake, to encourage him/her to be confident, to trick him/her to take a bath or go to bed, to stop him/her to do something they are not supposed to do without making them upset and the list goes on and on.
6) Dedication: we devote our time, love and attention to our little one. My husband and I barely have time for ourselves. I have always been jealous of most couples who have the same work schedules and be home at the same time. We have different work schedules and haven't had weekends off together like other couples. I kind of get to experience what it is like to be a single mom, it is very difficult to care for a young child by yourself most of the time when your husband is not there. For the worst part, my parents live in another country and my in-laws are still working full time. I wish i had an on-call nanny whenever I need a break!
I know a terrible two is nothing compare to the time she grows into a teenager. I may die from stress lol.
My daughter is the BEST and SWEETEST thing that ever happened to me but I sometimes sure miss "the freedom of doing whatever/going whenever I feel like" kind of feeling. Life is so different when you bring a child into a picture. It is not always picture perfect but that's what makes life much more fulfilling and meaningful.
Sorry, no hair post this past weekend. Things didn't work out as planned, no picture, no shopping - nothing :(
I will try to do a post about that next weekend.
Hi Nelah...just sent you an email, but wanted to post before going to bed:)
ReplyDeleteLOVE your words of wisdom here, and you are sooo right!! Nothing can prepare you for the demands of being a parent. My daughter will be 18 yrs old next month, and it seems like yesterday I was frantically filling the diaper bag while trying to dash out the door.......your little one is a doll...and all the time you are putting into the most important job you will ever have...will be rewarded every day when you see that little angel smile:)
Luv ya!!
Read my interview w/Susan from ModCloth♥
our daughters are the same age. mine always puts on my shoes too and i so agree, they are the sweetest
ReplyDeleteOne of my best friends just had her first child on last Monday, and he's adorable! Kinda made us want a baby for a minute, but we're soooo not ready for one yet! Seeing your post only confirms my fears haha... But don't worry, the terrible twos only supposed to last a year, right??
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing ur words of wisdom here, Nelah:) I'm sorry to hear that you've been so exhausted. I can't even begin to imagine! A mother's unconditional love always amazes me:) Love both pics above! Too cute!
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Oh Nelah, I love how you pour your heart out in your posts and are so candid. I just love reading your posts :)
ReplyDeleteI can only imagine how difficult it is raising a baby! My mom tells me I was really easy, but my sister was extremely difficult haha. It would take them 30 min to get her to brush her teeth!
I think for so many things in life, there will be a trade off, and we have to learn to really embrace all the good and find ways to deal with the bad.
Hehe love that last photo! Can't wait to see the hair post!
I heard there's nothing like the terrible two's to try one's patience, but like PetiteXXS said it'll soon be over and she'll outgrow this more difficult phase.
ReplyDeleteYour posts are also so genuine and frank, I have really enjoyed reading them.
I love how you are so honest and willing to share you insight on the good and bad of parenthood. And I LOVE that adorable picture of your little one in heels. Too cute!
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ReplyDeleteI can relate to many things in this post. I snapped at my little girl here and there when she didn’t listen. I felt bad 10 minutes later. Being a parent isn’t easy. Being a good parent is 100 times harder. I love my little girl more than my life but sometimes, I feel great just to be away for a few days. When I come back, I am ready to give her undivided attention. Some people think the older they get, the easier for us. Wrong! Regardless, their smiles and happiness worth more than anything
I am not trying to enable...I hope. :) But if you like any LOFT things you don't necessarily have to go through the trouble of rummaging through racks of big sized things. You should give your local LOFT a call and ask them to submit an order on your behalf. They charge $7.50 for shipping on the entire order...which isn't a whole lot considering how much you'll end up saving in travel time and disappointment. Just give them the style number (available online), the size, and the color. They can take your order by phone (though it's only supposed to be in-person only) and ship to your address.
ReplyDeleteOMG. She's super cute. So tiny but already so stylish :p You've done such a great job being a mom... It's not the easiest job in the world :)
ReplyDeleteAw I love this pic of your daughter in your heels!! She's so adorable :)
ReplyDeleteI hope someday to learn the lessons of parenthood too, I'm also tempered and throw fits myself eek..
Do you read Fashion Momma (www.fashionmommaintraining.blogspot.com) by Kimberly? She and her husband also work opposite schedules (he works nights) and she has a little girl about the same age as yours. I'll bet the two of you would have LOTS in common! She's one of my closest bloggy friends and I really think you two could be a huge source of strength and support to each other.
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