Do you remember your first love? Was it a good one that you want to remember for the rest of your life or a bad one that you can't seem to get rid of even though you hit a delete button over and over again? Life is so full of surprises whether a good one or a bad one but I do believe each and every event in our lives happen for a reason whether we like it or not.

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I didn’t experience a puppy love until 19 years old because I spent most part of my life in girl only school (yay..yay). My first relationship was a long distance one with my boyfriend living in Korea at the time (but we did meet and spend time together in real life). Let me tell you, the story is worse or as worse as most Korean drama series you have ever seen because it ended up on a very bad term. Both of us were so head over heel towards each other to the point that he even proposed to me in an elevator!! I was once again 19 years and he was 18 years old, I was in my 2nd year in university.
Long distance relationship was not easy, let alone for the fact that we were still too young and not up to the challenge. You bet. We broke up (darn it - he took a ring back!, I could have sold and made money out of it to compensate my emotional damage).
What..what? Do you want to her a reason for this break-up? Okay..okay nosy people..don’t get too excited now. We broke up in a chat program, extremely technical.

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Reason number one: he met another woman who was 5 years older than him. Reason number two: he wanted to marry her and….
Reason number three: this one almost made me throw up in blood – she was pregnant with his baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hell yessssssss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My world turned upside down, went round and round, bounced to the left and the right. I closed a chat window and I looked like I had just lost my soul – I looked totally blank. You bet, from there the hell broke through. I spent nearly every night crying my eyes out, cursing him and that woman (even thought it was probably not her fault because she may not even know). I even wanted something to go wrong with her pregnancy. It was the very first time in life that I experienced a betrayal and a sudden loss of love. It was purely miserable for a very long period of time but luckily I was able to pull through and graduated with 3.00+ GPA within 3 ½ years. My heart was still broken in tiny pieces and completely lost trust in every man. Completely overrated!!
I later became to realize that we broke up for a reason. Someone up above saw that there was someone else out there for me. Someone who was really meant to be my true love.
{Part two is coming up, hopefully tomorrow}
Hello Miss Nelah sorry I have not been buy in a few days! I caught up on your posts and love the pictures you took at the park! And You are 32?? You are only 2 years older than me I was guessing you were 28. So sorry to hear about your first engagement, you were young and he was dumb, and good riddance to them. I am glad you are happy now with an adorable daughter and it seems like life is good!
ReplyDeleteWow thanks for sharing! First loves are always ones you remember - no matter good or bad! But yeah good riddance to him. He betrayed you and now you have found someone much better! :)
ReplyDeletenelah i've missed you!! omgosh that story is CRAZYYYYY!!! pregnant?!?!?! omgosh that is so disgusting.. you are lucky to be rid of him!! i love when you blog about your real life stories because i feel like i'm really getting to know you like a real girlfriend!!!
ReplyDeleteNelah, holy cow, you know what? That pregnant woman (well, not so pregnant anymore) did you a favor. At the time it didn't seem like it but at least it made you realize what a d*ck the guy was and you got out of there quickly. I know what first loves are like, your heart is broken, you feel like you can never go on. But 10 years later you look back and laugh. I once told a guy that i loved him and you know what he said? 'oh, ah, that's nice to hear'. I had the last laugh when he came running back to me and i told him to f*ck off. Thanks so much for sharing your story so far, can't wait for part 2. Sequels are always so much fun :)
ReplyDeleteHey Nelah, I was dating this guy in college for several years. He began acting distant and then disappeared. So I went on to graduate school, completed everything and got my first professional job. He called me one day at work, said he had PICKED the wrong one, that they don't like each other and have a 1 year old daughter. HAHAHA I told him I was getting married (fabricated). LOL Looking back on all the horrible relationships I've had, I thank my lucky stars NONE of them worked out. Couldn't see it at the time. Cried and was depressed, but it was for THE BEST! Thanks for sharing your story. :D LOL at Sharon!!!
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ReplyDeletethank you so much for sharing!!! everything happens for a reason. even though relationships like these hurt us a lot, we always walk away learning so much from it.
ReplyDeletelooking fwd to part 2!!
this does sound like those koreak drama story..except not the happy one but those sad melodrama type =( cant wait to read part two!
ReplyDeletedo you miss me?! hehe i miss your blog...so glad to be back and blogging again!
I hope you have a great thankgiving with your family Nelah!
hello nelah! i guess you probably realize it now but it was his loss. ^-^ i'm sure it was hard though when you were going through it. i suppose sometimes, we really need to be broken to see and appreciate what the word L-O-V-E really means.
ReplyDeleteNelah, I'm back here and I'm starting to catch up from the skincare mask post and reading upwards and as i'm typing this, I haven't read part 2 yet. Hehe... forced myself to go in order and keep the suspense.
ReplyDeleteI like all the lame reasons he gave. I'm so happy for you. You're better off w/o this young guy. I wonder if they're still very much together.
BTW, I'm the queen of LDR. I survived LDR with my hubby back then when I was still in Uni and he's constantly overseas. He was even posted overseas for 9 mths at one point in time. We managed "survive" till now.